Tag: renewal

Detox Your Life

Everything must constantly be destroyed in order to be reborn. We must constantly let go of everything we hold on to, in order to flow with the motion of life. 

What’s poisoning you?

UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP(S)

 UNHEALTHY BEHAVIOR

UNHEALTHY THOUGHTS

UNHEALTHY WORDS

UNHEALTHY FEAR

Spring is here! This is a time of renewal. A time of rebirth. Many of us have take a a winter rest. We don’t do so much in our lives during the winter.  But now it is Spring. We clean our houses. We brush off our yard tools. We gear up for outdoor cooking.

How about ourselves?

Spring is a great time to clean up our lives. Most of us have some thing that is unhealthy in our lives.

What’s your poison? 

Something is poisoning you. There is something(s) that is quietly compromising your well-being. Is it relationship issues, thoughts, behaviors?

Remedy.

The answer is to two parts:

First, be honest with you. You need to learn to recognize the hidden dangers in your life. What is bringing you down?

Second, remove the poison by replacing it with  an empowering alternative. You need the alternative or else there will be a missing piece in your life, and you will revert back to your poison.

Is your reality your ultimate reality?

We all do it. We let small things grow. We ignore the small signs that things are not the way they are supposed to be. We sometimes expect that it won’t get worse. Or better yet, the issue will just go away on it’s own. But often we are ignoring something that is bringing us down, little by little. And before you know it, you may be at “rock bottom”. How did that happen?

Hopefully, you have not let your poison get you that far down. But remember that it is only by moving fully into the darkness that we can appreciate the light.

One of my biggest lessons.

When I was 16, my aunt and uncle taught me this lesson. Nearly 40 years (I am not quite that old) later it stills hold meaning and value in my life. Here it is:

If you have a light on in your house all the time, you notice it more at night, when it is dark than when it is light. It is always on, but when the house has the sun light you don’t notice it much if at all.

Understand why you are being poisoned.

Why are you doing that? Even if depression is your poison, you are doing depression you are not being depressed. What are you getting from it? What is the benefit? Yes, there is a benefit.

Now, let it go.

I know. It is hard. You and the poison have had a relationship for at least a little while now. But I keep telling you. It is a habit you made. You can make a new one. I promise. Let go! You control the poison. It does not control you.

This will be both liberating and terrifying at the same time. Don’t worry. You can fill that need with something positive.

Unconditional love.

I mentioned this before, but it want to remind you now. How you feel about you has a lot to do with this. Your poison could very well be what you treat or think about you. If you judge yourself harshly, you feel judged by others. If you hate yourself, you feel hated. If you don’t trust you, you don’t trust others.

Give yourself love. Love yourself as you are. You, just like everyone else, are doing your best with the tools and understanding you have.

Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.

Happy Spring! Remember: 

Rebirth

Renewal

Lisa Y. Life Coach

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mindfulness lesson 10

Hello~

How is your mindfulness going?

meditation for rest

We all know how important having plenty of rest is for general health. But unless you sleep like a log, you are probably not getting a lot of true rest when you sleep.  With all the twisting and turning you do, your body can be very tense. I have had people tell me that they wake up with their fingers all sore from apparently making a fist all night. They have tired jaws from clenching their jaws all night. Doesn’t sound all that relaxing to me. How many times have you gotten up in the morning not feeling rested?

This is one reason you need meditation. Sitting in meditation, gets you truly relaxed. With meditation, you turn your conscious mind off. You can actually do that by the way. I do that every night when I go to sleep.

How to sit

There is the full lotus position. This is where you sit with the left foot on the right thigh and the right foot on the left thigh.  This can be a very difficult position if you are not very limber. There is also the half lotus where you put one foot on the opposite thigh. If you get uncomfortable, you can always change which foot goes on the opposite thigh. Some people meditate in the Japanese style. This is with the knees bent and resting on their two legs. Personally, I think just sitting in a chair or on a couch even is perfectly fine. You want to be comfortable. Having good posture is important for proper breathing. You will start with your eyes focused between 3-6 feet away. And you want to add your Mona Lisa smile.

Meditation basics

Take a few slow and easy breaths. Relax your entire body. Release all the tension. Release all your worries. Release anything that concerns you. Imagine going with the flow of life. Imagine being a river. The water washes all the negative away. For at least 20 minutes and perhaps as long as 30, just follow your breath. Feel yourself being that river and going in the direction of least resistance. You are just going with the current. Continue to let go of all tension. This is the tension in your body and in your life. Feel yourself being filled with peace. Remember to maintain your Mona Lisa smile.

The pebble

I want to take this meditation deeper. In the last lesson, I talked about the pebble. Remember? I mentioned thinking about relaxation being like the ripple of a pebble. Imagine that pebble. Instead of being the river, you are now a pebble. A pebble that has been tossed into the river. A pebble tossed into a river will sink. Imagine you are this pebble and you now float to the bottom of the river. You are completely free. You have nothing to tie you down. You are free to float to the bottom. You may move some with the current. But otherwise you are completely at rest on the river bed. The river water washes over you. As it does, your rough edges become smooth.

 Life is a river.

So it goes as it goes as the river flows.

Remember that a key element of mindfulness is to be in the present. I know that for some of you to sit and do nothing for 20 minutes sounds like an eternity. So many are so used to multi tasking that doing nothing is foreign. But really, it is only 20 minutes. And we need to stop slipping into the future. If you can’t enjoy the present, life is like a river. And it, life, will flow right by you. You lose your future when it becomes your present. 

Renewal

The more you practice the easier it becomes. The more you practice the more restful you will become. You will become renewed in spirit. This renewal will bring peace and joy that will fill more and more of your life.

Make it an event. It can be a very special time to spend with those you love. If you are in a relationship, this can be a very uniting experience. Sit down with some soft music. Perhaps have candles going or a fire if the weather is right for a fire. Perhaps you can sit outside. You and another or you and others can enjoy this peaceful time together. If you want, you can hold hands, and get the energy flowing from one to another. If you do, it is important to hold hands properly.

Energy comes in your left hand and out your right. So you want to have your left hand up and your right hand down. Remember it this way: If it were left up to me, we would get right down to it.

On this same note, cat’s energy goes the other way around. So, petting a cat is very calming energy. You might say it is purrfect to pet a cat.

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Yeah!

Mona Lisa smile for me.

Lisa Y coaching