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Sports
How many of you like to watch sports? My guess is most if not all. When you watch some sport like football, baseball or basketball, it can be very intense. You cheer for a team. It may be “your” team or if your team is not playing it is another team you like or it could be a team that if they win it helps your team in the ratings. If you are watching this game with people rooting for the opposing team, there can be a lot of trash talk. Each side giving the other a bad time. At the end of the game, there is a winner and a loser.
For the players, ever notice that there is a mutual respect for the other team’s players? At the end of a game, like good sports, the players laugh, smile, and nod. They shake hands. “Good game” they say. They walk off the field or court as athletes who fought a good fight. Half of the players won. Half of the players lost. They went into that game knowing that is how it goes. You win some. You lose some. In the locker room, they plan to learn from their mistakes, and work on not making those mistakes again.
The fans of the losing team may not be so OK with the loss. Have you ever noticed that sometimes the fans are bad losers? They may riot in the street. They keep the trash talk going. They may actually get angry at the players for making nice with the opposing team. They are bad sports. They make a** holes of themselves. They are immature. What is the point of the riot? What ever you are burning belongs to an innocent victim. Who you are looting are innocent victims. It is not their fault your team lost.
Legal cases
In court houses, there are two sides. While the trial is on, it is a battle. Each side fights very hard to make their case. Lawyers try to trip up the other side. They try to make the other side look bad. They try to confuse the other side into saying things that hurt their case. And at the same time they try to make their side look like victims. They try to get their side to say things that will help their case.
At the end, most of the time, there is a winner and a loser. Have you ever noticed after a court case that the opposing attorneys are all friendly with one another? They are civil. They smile. They laugh. They ask about each other’s families? They know each other. Perhaps they have gone up against each other numerous times. To them, you win some; you lose some.
But the people who they represented are not always so OK with the lawyers being all nice after the case. To the people involved, they were fighting for something that may very well be life changing. They may “hate” the opposing side. Even though the case has been closed in a court house, to the people involved, it is not over.
Those who lost, well they may not do anything. But they often want revenge. They want “justice”. They may very well think of what to do to get their justice.
Elections
Elections are sort of like sports and legal cases. There are two strong contenders. There may be more contenders, but usually, in most races, there are two. They fight hard. They tell you why you should vote for them and not for their opponent. There is a lot of trash talk. Tempers rise. Unlike either sports or legal cases, these fights go on for months. They may go over a year. They start out slowly and build up speed. At the end of the race, it becomes very intense. The supporters become very involved. After all, these candidates, more or less, represent their desires. They represent their voice. They probably don’t agree 100% with the candidate of their choice, but they agree more than disagree. Now, sometimes they don’t want either candidate. Sometimes they vote against the other person.
At the end, there is a winner and a loser. And just like sports and legal cases, the politicians accept the outcome. The loser does not like the outcome, but accepts it. That is just politics. Sometimes you win, and sometimes you lose. The loser will talk to their supporters and say we did not win this time, but let us come together. Let us be a united community. They remove the hate speech. They are a gracious loser. The winner will say kind things as well. They will show respect to their opponent. In a good race, they are a gracious winner.
But the supporters on the losing side are not always so understanding and accepting of the loss. They are filled with the hate that was built up over the last several months. They feel sad. They sometimes act as if the world is coming to an end. They feel despair. Just like the losing fans in the sports they may do crazy things. But why? Why do you riot? Why do you burn things? Why do you loot? Why protest? When you do these things, you are doing them against innocent victims. If you are burning someone’s property, you are hurting someone that did nothing to you. Nothing. If you loot or the like, you are hurting someone who did nothing to you. Nothing. So, for the love of your mother, don’t do it. It is not the fault of these innocent victims that your candidate lost. So, don’t take it out on them.
The election is over
We just finished a very long and hard fought election. There was a lot of trash talk. There was a lot of hateful things said. There were a lot of mean accusations on both sides. People on both sides calling each other names. As I mentioned in my last post about 50% of our population is on the losing side. There are a lot of emotions to lose. We built up a lot of hate to try to get people to vote with us. And now, it is time to let the hate go. Listen to our leaders. Both leaders were very gracious. It is time for us to be gracious as well. Don’t riot. Don’t loot. Don’t burn. Who are you hurting anyway? Yep! Innocent victims. We the people of the United States of America voted. The results are very close. But there is a winner, like it or not. Listen to the leaders and make nice.
Just like the athletes on the losing sport team it is time to go to the locker room. Take a shower. Think about what you did well, and what needs improvement. And how you still can make a difference. Get involved in other ways. Write to Congress. Write to your Representatives and Senators. Make petitions. Do positive things.
Local activity
As I said before, we are a network of neighborhoods. Work on your own neighborhood. If we all make our neighborhood great, we will have a great nation. Once all the neighborhoods connect up, we are a nation.
If you want to protest something, protest the gangs and drugs in your neighborhood. This is, to me, the greatest threat and danger we have. How many jail cells are spent because of drugs and gangs? Most. How many lives are lost because of drugs and gangs?
Unite your neighborhoods in peace. Clean them up. Have neighborhood parties. Wen we work together to improve our little piece of the world, you will find an amazing transformation. I promise.
Marijuana
A few more states have legalized marijuana. If all else fails, have a toke with your neighbors, you’ll forget your hate. That is a JOKE.
*I am not promoting the use of marijuana or any other substance even if legal.*
Smile. We will survive.
Take care of each other.
Lisa Y. coaching
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