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Never need others more than they need you

NEVER NEED OTHERS MORE THAN THEY NEED YOU

So, it is a lonely feeling needing others too much. You become afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. You are afraid of having them walk away. And then, either losing everything or not getting what you need.

It is hard being under someone’s thumb. They have complete control over you. You feel weak. You feel resentment. You may even hate that person or persons.

Then you hate yourself for getting in that position in the first place. Then you dwell on it. It eats away at you. You start chasing your tail trying to figure out what to do. You feel alone. Then what?

You may have told a friend or two. They help the best they can, but then they give up.

You feel stuck.

Sigh.

Do you feel this way? Have you given up your power?

I hate to admit it, but I gave up my power. It was years ago. You can regain your power. You deserve it.

Now, I am not suggesting that you want to be in a position to have others be indebted to you. I don’t want you to take the power away from others. The answer is to be understood, and to get people to do the right thing. Find a middle ground so there is a win win situation. But, it is not easy. Having people give up power is not an easy task.

You need to find your strengths. Find what you can do to stand up against this bully or bullies. Everyone has a weakness. Find their weakness. What do they want? What motivates them? Use that to your advantage. Help them to meet their needs and take you out from under their thumb. As unbelievable as it may sound, they will actually be happier. Why? because they will be meeting their needs on a higher level. And when you do that, you feel powerful. You feel you can accomplish anything.

OK, I hope that helps. Or at least gives you ideas on how to improve a less than optimal situation.

Take Care!

Until next time then, this is Lisa Y life coach wishing you the power and control of your life you deserve.

www.facebook.com/lisayliecoach

My loyalty to you

LOVE IS A TWO WAY STREET. DO YOU EVER FEEL THAT YOU LOVE AND CARE FOR OTHERS MORE THAN THEY CARE FOR YOU? IF SO, REMEMBER, YOU HAVE A FRIEND IN ME. I WILL STAY WITH YOU AS LONG AS YOU NEED ME.

A PERSON WHO VALUES YOU would not put themselves in a position to lose you. I hope I never put myself in that position.

TRYING TO GET PEOPLE TO LIKE you or care about you enough to help you is pointless. Good friends already will be supportive, and the rest just won’t so don’t get upset that they won’t. You will never have to try to get me to be supportive.

Thoughts for today:

DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE THINKING ABOUT YOU. IT IS MY EXPERIENCE THAT PEOPLE REALLY DON’T THINK ABOUT YOU AS MUCH AS YOU MAY BE FRETTING.

The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
— Elbert Hubbard

I learned a long time ago that there is something WORSE THAN MISSING THE GOAL, and that’s not pulling the trigger.
~Mia Hamm

Finally,

I KNOW THIS IS INAPPROPRIATE AND NOT PROFESSIONAL, BUT I WANT WHOEVER SEES THIS TO KNOW — I LOVE YOU. WISHING YOU A GREAT DAY!

Lisa Y life coach www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

YERINGTON PEACE PRIZE

** Yerington Peace Prize Giveaway**

I am giving away $100 cash prize.

To enter: go to www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach– Become a fan, post what you did to bring a little peace to your corner of the world. Please add a photo or a video with your post. Winner will be selected on February 9th.

Rules: Must become a fan and post either a photo or video with your post to show everyone what you did.

Coaching giveaway

COACHING GIVEAWAY

I am giving away 9 months of coaching services.

A $540 value.

To enter go to www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach. Become a page fan.

Winner to be announced on February 9th.

Official Rules: This is for one session per month. No cash value.

Make Like a Penguin

Make like a penguin.

Make a commitment to a life partner.

Treat your life like the ocean and dive in.

Be willing to go to the ends of the Earth.

Be faithful to those in your community and stand together.

Don’t be intimidated by a long journey. Enjoy the scenery.

Lisa Y life coach, www.facebook.com/lisay

Alternate facts, an explanation

So there has been a lot of discussion about alternate facts these days. I would like to take a moment to explain this.

Some people think there is no such thing as alternate facts. Some say there are facts and lies. Well, it is all about perception.

The Bermuda Triangle

There is a lot of information on the Bermuda Triangle. There are all sorts of facts. So, why do some people believe that the Bermuda Triangle is a strange phenomenon that “eats” ships and downs planes, and other people say it is just water?

Well, from all the facts and data from this area, we pick and choose the information that agrees with our thoughts on the subject. If you like the idea of a mysterious area, then you believe the facts that support that. If you think the mystery is silly, you pick the facts that support your point of view.

We really don’t know what, if anything, is mysterious about this patch of water. All the facts and data are true. But, they are slanted to “prove” a point of view.

The Moon Landings

This is another example. Some people believe we have had people on the moon, and some think it was just a Hollywood movie so to speak. We all see the same information. But we choose to follow the data that supports our ideas.

If it makes sense to you, you believe man has walked on the moon. And you believe the data that supports it. If you don’t believe that man could have walked on the moon, then you follow the data that says it was not possible.

Court Cases

My third and final example. I could do more, but I think you get the idea. But this one really makes a statement. If we talk about criminal cases, there is the prosecutor and the defendant. The two sides take the same information. But they present it to the court very differently, don’t they? Sometimes don’t you wonder how one set of facts can be seen differently by the two sides? Well, alternate facts.

It isn’t that there are alternate facts as much as which facts each side focuses on, right? The lawyers for either side pick the facts they want to present and either ignore the other facts or interpret the facts the other way. No one is lying. They just use the facts or the data that supports their point of view.

Does that help? I hope that helps. There is such a thing as alternate facts. But more it is choosing facts that support your point of view.

Take Care!

Lisa Y life coach, www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

Super Bowl Challenge and Survey

Friday fun!

Super Bowl challenge: Can you predict the score?

Super Bowl survey: Which Quarter Back is cuter?

Family gratitude journal

You may use anything as a journal a legal pad will do. Get a blue ink pen that has a clip on it to clip it on the journal, this way there are no excuses to skip it!
Lay the journal out where everyone can see it (remember…no excuses), we lay ours on the kitchen counter.

If your family is going through some “challenges”, put the journal on the counter without saying a word to anyone.

Write across the top: I AM grateful for…..
and start your list.

Let me help you with some ideas:

I am so grateful Marie jumped in and did the dishes for us without me asking.
I am grateful for a good nights sleep. I am rested and ready for a new day.
I am grateful my husband takes care of the maintenance on our cars…..mowed the grass….stopped by the grocery for me. Takes the pressure off of my day by starting a load of laundry or starting dinner.
I am grateful the kids took out the trash today….raked the leaves…cleaned their rooms…brushed their teeth….did their homework without being told.

You get the idea.

The family will see the journal without you pointing it out to them…leave it open so they can start reading it. Every morning and evening add to it, you will not run out of things to be grateful for once you start. I stop sometimes as soon as I enter the house with my keys and purse still in my hand to write something down. Think about the impact it will begin to make on your children to see mom and dad leaving cute little notes to each other….I love you’s and thank you’s. How different would your life be if this behavior was modeled for you growing up?

Now lets dig a little deeper into the gratitude journal, and how it works to manifest. If we are not being grateful for what we have in the “now”…today…why would the universe think that you would be grateful for more? To go one step further, our subconscious only understand the vibration of the
“emotion” of gratitude….the subconscious does not know if the emotion is real or not.

Let that sink in a minute.

If we can hold the emotion of gratitude it enables us to manifest our desires into the “now”.
I are regularly grateful for things that we do not have in the “now”. One morning a friend wrote: I am grateful that the universe provides all of our needs with grace and ease. I am grateful the groceries are provided for us effortlessly. And then wrote…thank you thank you thank you. It was 7:45 a.m. At 4:30 p.m. she was given a Kroger gift card for $250.00 and a hug!
She showed the person that gave her the gift card what I had wrote down earlier that morning. They were speechless.
We have written how thankful we are for full tanks of gas, our nails getting done, lunches and dinners and paid bills…..ALL before we were blessed by it!

Remember…..the subconscious does not know the difference if you have received yet or not, only the emotion of receiving it.

What are you going to be thankful for receiving now?

Make sure to go over to www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach and post your praise, so we can be grateful with you!

I am grateful for your reading this.

Lisa Y life coach

My promise to

MY PROMISE:

To be supportive even if I disagree with your point of view or think your dream is a bit too high. If you have lofty ideas or dreams, we will break them down into smaller, manageable steps.

To not dismiss any thought or passion you may have. As I say, if it matters to you, it matters.

To not treat you negatively if your thought or passion is different than mine.

To not correct you in what you really mean. You know you better than anyone. But you have to be true to yourself. But, I will make sure you have not stated something incorrectly if what you said does not make sense to me.

To not talk down to you. If you tell me something, I will assume you know what you are saying. But, if you say something that does not make sense, I may ask why you believe something to be true. I will listen to you.

MY PURPOSE:

To fill the world with men and women living large with lives filled with passion, purpose, and boldness.

Thank you for your time.

Lisa Y coaching, www.facebook.com/lisay

Solve the puzzle 2

So. either no one could figure it out the last one or no one cares. But here is a second puzzle to try. What is the missing number?

1,6,1,1,3,__

Good luck!

If you figure it out leave a message at www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach Tell us what you think the answer is but not why.

Cheers!

Lisa Y life coach