It starts with you

Hello~

It all starts with you.

What you think and feel about the world around you reflects how you feel about you. If you think people can or cannot be trusted, it is because you do or do not trust yourself. If you think others judge you, it is because you judge yourself. If you think others do or do not like you, it is because you do or do not like you. If you don’t feel loved by others, you don’t love yourself.

How you treat others is how you treat yourself. If you respect yourself, you get respect back. If you are impatient with others, you are impatient with yourself. If you are angry with others, you are angry with yourself.

What ever causes you pain, it starts with you. I know that is a hard truth. We would rather blame others for our pain.  But the good news is since it starts with you; it ends with you.

Unconditional love. This is where the pain ends and the healing begins. The love you have for you. You are a loving person. You put a lot of love out there. Now, bring it back to you.

Imagine all that love you have put into the world. All the kind and generous things you have done are now coming back to you. Open your heart. Know that no matter your short comings you are a good person. Think of all the ways you cared, given to others, put faith in others. You have given trust. You took a chance on others in many times and many ways.  You had patience with a child, an elder person, a pet. You have been true to yourself. You have had compassion.

You have had moments when you faltered. But you are not perfect. So forgive your short comings.

Give yourself unconditional love. How does it feel? Do you feel a weight has been lifted? At first you may feel weak. Your initial reaction may be that you have lost something. Well, you have. You lost all that negativity. But then you should feel warmth and peace.

Now, your world changes. What you actively put into the world is positive. And what is returned is positive. Your point of view has changed. No longer are you a victim. No longer is the world doing things or treating you a certain way. You are influencing your world and feeling empowered.

You can smile now because you know it starts and ends with you. You create your world.

Lisa Y., life coach

www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

 

 

You are not committed to changing your life

 

What will you lose if you don’t change? How will that feel?

What will you gain if you do change? How will that feel? 

Who will you become if you do change? How will that feel?

You are not ready to commit to change.  

If you were serious about changing your life, you would commit to it. How do I know you are not committed? Because you are seeking the answers by reading  this and not acting.

No one wants a coach. Why? Because they hold you accountable. But, when you are ready to contact a coach, and have someone hold you accountable then you are committed.

When you are ready to pay a coach, then you are ready. Hey, life coaches, we are not that coach you remember in High School or the coach you see on television yelling and screaming. We are listeners who use gentle guidance. But if you want a tough coach, I can do that.

When you are ready to do what a coach asks you to do, and you are willing to do it even if you don’t want to do it, then you are ready.

Until you are willing to commit, and do what you have to do to change,  you won’t be happy. You won’t feel fulfilled.

Something in your life if screwed up. Why else would you be reading this? Well, you really can’t make it worse. Turn it around. What ever is screwed up it will not change on it’s own.

I can be the steward for the life you want most. Unlock your full potential. Get unstuck.

I can help you prosper.

It isn’t as hard as you think:

Step 1: Diagnosis. What is your motivator? What is the most important need you have? There are only 4 options so it is not that hard to figure out. You already know what it is. You just don’t know that you know.

Step 2: Leverage. Using your desire to eliminate the pain from your life to have more pleasure.  What isn’t working for you?

Step 3: Empowering alternative. Find what will meet your need on a higher level.

Step 4: Conditioning. Action. Start a new habit. Leave bad influences behind and get into positive places.

Hypnosis. Getting into a deep meditation to put your subconscious to work by telling your subconscious it is OK to change. If you want, You can do this yourself if you want. I can show you.

What will you lose if you don’t change? How will that feel?

What will you gain if you do change? How will that feel? 

Who will you become if you do change? How will that feel?

EVENT: Monday March 20th 10:00 a.m. -4:00 p.m. Pacific Time I will be on Facebook. Contact me. We can chat. It’s free!

To participate: www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

Commit!

 

 

Book challenge

Hey~

I took a vacation. Did you miss me?

So, I am starting a new challenge. I have a list of the 75 best books in the last 75 years.

I am not much of a reader. I have a very restless mind. But, I am making a challenge to read one book a month, and I am going to follow this list.

I am looking to find people who would like to join me and have a little book club. I am striving for one a month. If this sounds fun to you, my first book is A Tree Grows In Brooklyn. I just ordered it. So, I don’t have an official start date. But the arrival of my copy is due anywhere between 3/ 9 and 3/24. I will start reading when it comes.

OK. if you are interested, I invite you to like and follow me at: www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

Cheers!

Lisay life coach

 

 

 

 

Valentine’s Day

 

For those who are sad and disappointed that they’re not in a coupling for Valentine’s Day, it would be wiser to look to a model of fulfilled single people than to the Hallmark model.
Hallmark, and the companies that followed suit, had mostly profits, not truly the celebration of real love, in mind.

Single people who are happy, content, fulfilled, and balanced have the better model, the better grounding in life.

To everyone, I would suggest a celebration of love of Self. Do something nurturing & appreciative for yourSelf. Fall in love with yourSelf ~ it is the basis for all other relationships, always.

To those who are in a coupling, it’s still wise to look to a model of contentment, love, and respect, rather than paper hearts and chocolate.

(And I love chocolate!)

Wishing you the best Valentine’s Day

Lisa Y lifecoach

www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

 

Never need others more than they need you

NEVER NEED OTHERS MORE THAN THEY NEED YOU

So, it is a lonely feeling needing others too much. You become afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. You are afraid of having them walk away. And then, either losing everything  or  not getting what you need.

It is hard being under someone’s  thumb. They have complete control over you. You feel weak. You  feel resentment. You may even hate that person or persons.

Then you hate yourself for getting in that position in the first place. Then you dwell on it. It eats away at you. You start chasing your tail trying to figure out what to do. You feel alone. Then what?

You may have told a friend or two. They help the best they can, but then they give up.

You feel stuck.

Sigh.

Do you feel this way? Have you given up your power?

I  hate to admit it, but I gave up my power. It was years ago. You can regain your power. You deserve it.

Now, I am not suggesting that you want to be in a position to have others be indebted to you. I don’t want you to take the power away from others. The answer is to be understood, and to get people to do the right thing. Find a middle ground so there is a win win situation. But, it is not easy. Having people give up power is not an easy task.

You need to find your strengths. Find what you can do to stand up against this bully or bullies. Everyone has a weakness. Find their weakness. What do they want? What motivates them? Use that to your advantage. Help them to meet their needs and take you out from under their thumb. As unbelievable as it may sound, they will actually be happier. Why? because they will be meeting their needs on a higher level. And when you do that, you feel powerful. You feel you can accomplish anything.

OK, I hope that helps. Or at least gives you ideas on how to improve  a less than optimal situation.

Take Care!

Until next time then, this is Lisa Y life coach wishing you the power and control of your life you deserve.

www.facebook.com/lisayliecoach

 

My loyalty to you

LOVE IS A TWO WAY STREET. DO YOU EVER FEEL THAT YOU LOVE AND CARE FOR OTHERS MORE THAN THEY CARE FOR YOU? IF SO, REMEMBER, YOU HAVE A FRIEND IN ME. I WILL STAY WITH YOU AS LONG AS YOU NEED ME.

A PERSON WHO VALUES YOU would not put themselves in a position to lose you. I hope I never put myself in that position.

TRYING TO GET PEOPLE TO LIKE you or care about you enough to help you is pointless. Good friends already will be supportive, and the rest just won’t so don’t get upset that they won’t. You will never have to try to get me to be supportive.

Thoughts for today:

DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE THINKING ABOUT YOU. IT IS MY EXPERIENCE THAT PEOPLE REALLY DON’T THINK ABOUT YOU AS MUCH AS YOU MAY BE FRETTING.

The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
— Elbert Hubbard

I learned a long time ago that there is something WORSE THAN MISSING THE GOAL, and that’s not pulling the trigger.
~Mia Hamm

Finally,

I KNOW THIS IS INAPPROPRIATE AND NOT PROFESSIONAL, BUT I WANT WHOEVER SEES THIS TO KNOW — I LOVE YOU. WISHING YOU A GREAT DAY!

Lisa Y life coach www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

 

YERINGTON PEACE PRIZE

** Yerington Peace Prize Giveaway**

I am giving away $100 cash prize.

To enter: go to www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach– Become a fan, post what you did to bring a little peace to your corner of the world. Please add a photo or a video with your post. Winner will be selected on February 9th.

Rules: Must become a fan and post either a photo or video with your post to show everyone what you did.

 

Coaching giveaway

COACHING GIVEAWAY

I am giving away 9 months of coaching services.

A $540 value. 

To enter go to www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach. Become a page fan.

Winner to be announced on February 9th.

 

Official Rules: This is for one session per month. No cash value. 

Make Like a Penguin

Make like a penguin. 

Make a commitment to a life partner.

Treat your life like the ocean and dive in.

Be willing to go to the ends of the Earth.

Be faithful to those in your community and stand together.

Don’t be intimidated by a long journey. Enjoy the scenery.

Lisa Y life coach, www.facebook.com/lisay