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My focus as a life coach is to help people in two different ways. One is to help people who struggle with depression and anxiety. The other is to guide people wanting to grow as a person. 

For me, my first need to getting the life I wanted was to stop doing depression. I found the answer while I studied to be a life coach. When I did the diagnosis questions, I understood me. For the first time, I understood me. 

From there, I started to find better ways to not be so overwhelmed. I learned to clear my mind of all the confusion. I learned how to control certain thoughts. I let them come, I acknowledged them and then I let them go. Those thoughts of being overwhelmed come up still, but now I control them. I relax. I calm myself down. 

After I learned to not struggle with depression, I was ready to achieve. I wanted to build on what I had accomplished. I used certain tools to define my passion. I used certain tools to determine what path I wanted to take in life. What did I want to accomplish? I also used certain tools to know that I am am okay no matter what. I did not have to accomplish great things in life. I just had to go in the direction that was to lead me to my passion. 

You can do the same. I am not saying it will always be easy. It more than likely will not always be easy.  But any advancement in life, any little bit that makes life better is a worthy goal. It takes time and practice. 

My advice to you is to make it fun and that can make it easier.

Until next time.

Lisa

Hey there! 

I can be found on various social media platforms. 

My number one platform is Facebook. I have two pages. One is Depression Ditches. This is for people who want to stop doing depression.  The other is Coachieve. This is for people who are striving to grow as a person. These are both really good places to see get inspriation and to interact with me.

I can also be found on Twitter/X. I am not here often but I go by @LMYerington. 

I also post on Instagram. There I go by lisayerington.

So, check these out and say hi. 

Until next time, 

Lisa

P.S. I know these posts are sort of boring. But we are just getting to know each other. These are introductions. 

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I started as a life coach back in 2016. I have learned a few things:

I have learned what makes me tick.

I have learned why I am the way I am.

Why I have had the challenges I have had and how to deal with life in a better and more positive way. 

People struggle for different reasons. It could be depression or anxiety. 

People are also seaching for a way to achieve their goals. 

In these newsletters, I will share some aspect of my life and how I used the tools I learned in becomig a life coach to better my life. 

So, stay tuned. 

Until next time, 

Lisa

Do you understand the why of what I will call Covid depression?

What it is not:

It is not the lack of in person human interaction including hugs. It is not the lack of socializing and going out to bars and restaurants. It has nothing to do with how your hair looks. It is not the lack of a job or a loss of income. Nor is it not being able to go to a job you enjoy. It is not the inability to go to the gym or do similar activities. it is not the inability to go shopping at the mall. It is not the inability to go see a sick or aging relative. It is not that you can’t watch sports. It is not staying home all the time. It is not being stuck at home with your family all the time.

It isn’t? No it isn’t. Does that surprise you? It should. Those things are all very upsetting. And they do lead to bad feelings. But that is not the reason for any depression you may be feeling right now.

What it is:

It is the lack of certainty. All depression is from a lack of certainty. It is a lack of control. Right now, we don’t really know from day to day what is happening. Today your city, county and state have some sort of rules of engagement. They are being very controlling. Today you can do some action or activity , but tomorrow it may not be allowed. But, you never know when the mayor, county supervisor or governor may get on the news and say something like starting tomorrow the rules are going to change. It may mean more freedoms, or it may be fewer freedoms.

There are four necessities in life. One is control. When we lose control, we may do depression for comfort. I know that does not make any sense. But it is comforting. You bring a little control back into your life. If you act in a depressed manner, you are taking control of one aspect of your life. I will act depressed if I want to. It is my decision. What it is you may be doing to deal with the current situation is bringing a sense of security. You are giving you acting a certain way to bring pleasure into your life to avoid pain.

Here is what is happening. You sit around your home and ask questions. How long will it last? Will I get sick? Will it get worse? How will it end?

This is the necessity of life uncertainty. It is the opposite of certainty. We need uncertainty or variety. The problem is that right now uncertainty is out of control. It is too much. This brings the need for certainty and uncertainty out of balance. This is what is causing so much distress right now.

What you have to understand in life is that sometimes there are events in our world that we can’t control. You can send a “tweet” to the governor of your state asking that he or she allow this or that, but it won’t help. When something is completely out of your control, you have to accept that. You have to allow yourself to just relax and let go. I know that can be hard to do sometimes. But that is the first step in feeling better if the current situation has you acting out of sorts. And frankly, letting go is taking control in it’s own way.

The next step would be to find other actions you can take to bring control to your life. Work on other issues. Find a new hobby to take your mind off the rest of the world for awhile. Take up meditation. This is particularly helpful as meditation is all about bringing control into your life. You can still exercise. You can still go for a walk, a hike, a bicycle ride. Exercise is one of my best ways to clear my mind. And one more thing to do is to seriously reduce your exposure to the events of the world right now. Be informed, but don’t dwell on it by spending more than 10 minutes a day obsessing over any new development.

OK I hope that helps. If not, you know where to find me.

Coach Lisa

www.facebook.com/coachLisa

So does it occur to anyone else that this Corona virus is happening during Lent and that there is a lesson here?

One day everything was life as usual in the world. It was Fat Tuesday so to speak.

Then a virus appeared.

Then the next thing you know we are searching for toilet paper. We are social distancing. We are not able to eat in a restaurants. Schools are closed. Amusement parks are closed. Concerts are canceled. Hotel, travel and tourism industries are hurting. All sorts of events are canceled. Some businesses that have never closed ever even in 100 years are closed.

All this closure has us giving up a lot of things. Just like people do for Lent.

Lent is a time when people give up something they enjoy. It is meant as a sacrifice. The forty days represents the time Jesus spent in the wilderness, enduring the temptation of Satan and preparing to begin his ministry. Lent is a time of repentance, fasting and preparation for the coming of Easter. It is a time of self-examination and reflection.  It is a time when Christians focus on relationship with God, growing as disciples and extending ourselves, often choosing to give up something or to volunteer and give of ourselves for others.

Can you see the connection?

We are all, not just Christians, being asked to give up some things. It is situation where we are making choices. What is important? What is not?This is being called a crisis. If so, the word crisis which has the Greek root to mean to sift. That is to shake out the excesses and to leave only what is important. That is what crises do. They shake things up until we are forced to hold on to what matters most. The rest falls away.

In this time of the time of the Corona situation, we, are preparing for Easter in a sense. A new way of living may very well be at hand. The birth of a new way of living. Getting back to the basics of what is important. We are seeing what really matters. Before this situation we had excesses that were not of benefit to us in our spiritual sense. We lived wanting more and more. Just like Fat Tuesday, before this situation, we splurged. Now, we have been forced to cut back. We have had to adjust to a very big change. We are looking around to see who needs help. How can we help our seniors? How can we help the small business which has to close or has had their business dwindle due to the social distancing?

Don’t you think it’s interesting that the name of this virus is corona? Many people would have heard about the solar flash preceding ascension. The solar flash is understood to be a mass CORONAL ejection from the sun, wiping out all negative influence on the planet and restoring humanity to their rightful true states of being. Switched on in the heart, connected to true source, able to experience true light and eradicating all false light on the planet. This is spoken about in ancient mystery schools and religious texts alike, our ancients understood that a time would come where first light would return.

“And the people stayed home. And read books, and listened, and rested, and exercised, and made art, and played games, and grew gardens full of fresh food, and learned new ways of being, and were still. And listened more deeply. Some meditated, some prayed, some danced. Some met their shadows. And the people began to think differently. “And the people healed. And, in the absence of people living in ignorant, dangerous, mindless, and heartless ways, the earth began to heal. “And when the danger passed, and the people joined together again, they grieved their losses, and made new choices, and dreamed new images, and created new ways to live and heal the earth fully, as they had been healed.”~Kitty O’Meara

In the Hindu religion, Shiva is the destroyer. Shiva represents the constant changing of the universe, the flow of life. From Shiva we learn that everything must constantly be destroyed in order to be reborn. He reminds us that we must constantly let go of everything we hold on to, in order to flow with the motion of life.

Ruin is the road to transformation.

Please take this time, to reflect. What positive can come out of this at the end of the crisis? It is all going to be all right.

Coach Lisa

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So, there is A LOT out there on the URGENCY to find your PURPOSE.

SECRET: there is no urgency to find your purpose! RELAX. Your purpose will COME to you.

A big part of MY purpose was the years I was there for my mom including 13 months after her stroke. A big part of MY purpose has been to care for animals. There have been my rescues and the neighbor dogs. Some of my purpose has been to be a friend and guide to people in general. It has also been that kind word or gesture to others. I may not have saved the world, but I made a DIFFERENCE to mom and a variety of dogs and cats, strangers, and my clients. The POINT is don’t try to FIND your purpose. You don’t have to look for it.

Not everyone has some great life purpose. YOUR purpose may very well be similar to mine. Your purpose may be to make a DIFFERENCE in a small way just as I did. For people to think they do and they are not fulfilling their life purpose is very upsetting to people. This is a big contribution to so many people feeling unfulfilled. They feel they are not living up to what they should be doing.

I saw someone who asked how much PAIN will you go through to get to your life purpose? YIKES! Fulfilling your life purpose should not be painful. It should be natural. It is not a treasure hunt. It surrounds you. It is part of your life already.

Your life purpose or our true obligation to the world is to be the best we can be. This is our destiny. We take what has been given to us and use this to take care of ourselves. We need to learn to love our self. As we love our self, that is reflected in the world. Through love we make anything possible. When we take care of or own self, this is reflected back into the world, and others will do the same. Thoughts are things. What we think happens. Ideas begin to grow. Opportunities become endless. There is no concept of boundary or limitation.

People are always searching for answers. I say that the answer to anything lies in the question. We simply have to recognize it. When we follow our true self, the answer will be there. When we learn to trust ourselves, we can relax. We can release fear. When we relax and release fear, we find peace, and we can overcome anything.

Our purpose is to gain experience. We are here to learn. We are here to grow. There are 5 passions that hold us back. In order to grow, we must eliminate them. Here they are:

Anger: Anger has to do with meeting the survival need for significance. It helps us to feel stronger when we feel we have been knocked down or put down. It lessens our ability to connect or to have warmth and togetherness with others.

Attachment: This is infatuation. This is the passion for someone or something. It is that sense of need. As long as one has a sense of need, he is wanting. People become obsessed with attachment. It includes anxiety and worry. It causes procrastination. One is so worried that they fail to act.

Greed: This has to do with meeting the survival need for self or significance. We practice greed when we have fear of losing what we have. We need to learn when what we have is enough. Once we have all that we need, anything more is too much. Being afraid of losing what we have, we fail to grow as a human being. We stop growing.

Lust: This is an abnormal demand for anything. We are filling the survival need for significance and ignoring the survival need for love and connection with others.

Vanity: This has to do with the self or ego our sense of significance. It makes us feel better about our self. But it also makes us feel insecure. It distracts us from other people. It keeps us from reaching out to others.

There is a necessity for a sense of self or significance. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel significant or unique. But these five passions are extreme and put your life out of balance.

The powers of the Universe can bring about anything. We need to learn to be aware of the possibilities. The answer is right before us. The key is to open the mind. We can learn to harness the creative power of the Universe. When we do, we understand the principle of life. We can create our life to be what we want. We must turn on our spiritual light. This is going from ignorance to enlightenment. This is the purpose of life. This is our mission.

Cheers!

Coach Lisa

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I am an empath. I feel deeply. I care deeply. I can get overwhelmed with the energy around me. I need more quiet time than non empaths. I crave quiet times. I enjoy silence. I enjoy meditation.

I see a lot of support empaths give other empaths. I see a lot of talk about what it is to be an empath, which gives support, but I have yet to see a lot of answers. I am a transition coach. I wanted to explain what is going on here from a transition coach’s point of view with the hope to help. Remember this is a GENERALIZATION. It is based on MY EXPERIENCE and what I see as a commonality. I suggest you answer the questions for you. So here it goes.

What do empaths value most? The value certainty and comfort. They want to avoid the pain of overwhelming energy.

What is most important? The freedom from the energies of the world around us.

What do they strive to obtain above all else? To have a peaceful environment.

What do they do to get this? They are home bodies. They take as much quiet time as possible. They do meditation.

How do they live? In more isolation than others.

What drives them? To find a peaceful environment.

What do they want? To be relaxed in life.

What do they want to change? That uneasy feeling with concern over the lives of other people and animals.

What need do they want to meet on a higher level? Peace.

What would having that mean? Relief.

What is preventing them from getting that? The unwelcome sensitivity is every where. We pick it up everywhere. We are too aware.

What is blocking them from obtaining that? The options for that quiet place is limited and difficult.

How are they meeting their need by not changing? In many cases, isolation.

How is need met by not changing? Being home in a quiet place.

What need is met by not changing? Comfort.

What will they lose if don’t change? Socializing.

What are they missing out on? Socializing.

How does that feel? Lonely.

What will they gain when do change? Social interaction which fills the need for love and connection with others.

How will that feel? Nice. It would be pleasant to feel loved and part of society.

Who will they become if they do not change? A sad and lonely outcast. They will feel like an odd ball.

Who will they become when they do change? Part of society. A feeling they belong.

How will that feel? Great.

What is the alternative? What has to happen for you to get what you need? The goals:

To be less sensitive. Turn down the emotions which are actions by the way. The ability to let things go.

Think about a shipwreck. Now, I am not saying that being an empath is like having a life which is a shipwreck. But it is to me how I feel as an empath sometimes.

At first, you feel you are drowning. The wreckage is all around you. Everything is floating around. There are pieces all over. In your mind, you try to put all the pieces all back together. You try to get to your peaceful state of mind.

You try to remember how the ship was. You try to get back to the last time you felt peaceful. You try to imagine the ship in all its glory. You remember its beauty. You remember the magnificence of the ship. The ship was and is no more.

And all you can do is float in the water surrounded by the wreckage.

At first, you may be in hysterics. You may feel frantic. You may feel a great sense of loss. You think my life will never be peaceful again.

But as you float in the water surrounded by the wreckage, you start to calm down. You start to think more positively. You start to think about all the possibilities for rescue. You start thinking about opportunity to get out of this wreckage.

What next? Well, you rebuild that ship. You rebuild your peace. You get new pieces. You put them together. It isn’t the same ship. But you recreate a ship with its own unique beauty, glory and magnificence.

So, what are these pieces you use to rebuild your peace?

There are certain things to do. One is to have a distraction. One is to find humor in the situation. One is to look at the situation from the opposite perspective. Things are probably not as bad as we think it is.

What you are feeling can guide you to a different way of thinking of the situation. Here is a sample.

If you feel annoyed, this is a lesson in patience. If you feel abandoned, this is a lesson in how to stand on your own two feet. If you feel angry, this is a lesson in forgiveness and compassion. If you feel someone has power over you, take the power back. If you feel hate, this is a lesson in unconditional love. If you feel fear, this is a lesson to overcome fear. If you can’t control the situation, this is a lesson in letting go.

I know this is hard. These lessons are difficult for empaths. But if you stop when you feel you are in a shipwreck and drowning, stop and think about all of these options and you will find the answer. It will take practice.

And this friends is how we survive a shipwreck in life. You did not drown. You floated until you were able to rise out of the wreckage and built a new ship.

Smooth sailing.

Coach Lisa

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So, I have been inspired by these two words. It seems there is some commonality between them more than just sounding alike.

If we have a big waist, we have a lot of waste. A big waist can be the result of eating foods which lack nourishment rather than too much to eat. Did you know that? So, if we eat food that is not particularly nutritious, we have waste which shows up on our waist.

Just as if we have a lot of things that we don’t use, we have a lot of waste. This waste is garbage. It is defective or damaged. Just like that food which is not nutritious. And when we bought this non nutritious food, we wasted our money. We buy a lot of things we can’t use and we waste it. We also waste time and money.

Now, here is more fun with words. When we waste a lot, we call it wasteland. Which is a desert. And the word that is close to desert is dessert. And what does too much dessert do? It grows our waist. HA!

Now, we have E waste. Did you know that elastic bands on pants is now called E waist pants? HA! So, I am not the only one to make this connection.

The point is?

Well, the point is what you want to make of it. But, I am starting to see more and more connections with words, and I don’t think it is a coincidence.

I hope this blog post is not a waste of time.

Cheers!

Coach Lisa

www.facebook.com/coachLisa

Sometimes something terrible happens in our lives. It could be the death of a loved one. It could be a serious illness. It could be divorce. It could be a car crash, a fire, a flood that destroys property. It could be any number of things.

I will call this a shipwreck. We have a shipwreck. Our lives get tossed upside down.

At first, you feel you are drowning. The wreckage is all around you. Everything is floating around. There are pieces all over. In your mind, you try to put all the pieces all back together.

You try to remember how the ship was. You try to imagine the ship in all its glory. You remember its beauty. You remember the magnificence of the ship. The ship was and is no more.

And all you can do is float in the water surrounded by the wreckage.

At first, you may be in hysterics. You may feel frantic. You may feel a great sense of loss. You think my life will never be the same again. And you know what, it won’t. That is not to discourage you. But sometimes there is an aspect of life that simply is destroyed.

But as you float in the water surrounded by the wreckage, you start to calm down. You start to think more positively. You start to think about all the possibilities for rescue. You start thinking about opportunity to get out of this wreckage.

And then, the rescue team comes. People are around to take your hand and lift you out of the wreckage.

What next? Well, you rebuild that ship. You get new pieces. You put them together. It isn’t the same ship. But you recreate a ship with its own unique beauty, glory and magnificence.

And this friends is how we survive a shipwreck in life. You did not drown. You floated until you were able to rise out of the wreckage and built a new ship.

Smooth sailing.

Coach Lisa

www.facebook.com/coachLisa