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Punch with both fists.

Life is hard. It may be easy for some or so it seems, but I have found it to be hard. When you see other people doing things seemingly easily, it can be downright discouraging especially when you struggle with depression. I know what it is to feel that you have to fight to even get out of the mental hole you have dug for yourself. You make progress and then you go backward. You struggle to hang on. You get tired. You wonder what is the point? When you understand depression, you know how to make that forward progress stick. It takes fighting for your life. You have to be the rebel.

I call it punching with both fists at once. You can’t just punch one fist at a time. You need to punch with both at the same time. One fist is doing a different response to life stress depression. The second fist is to not take the easy way out and use your familiar tool of depression. When you punch with both , you get the knockout. You knock depression out. Then you have control and not depression.

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I am having an existential crisis.

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You’re either the hammer or the nail.
Hammers make things happen. They drive the point home. They aren’t afraid to swing hard, take calculated risks, and make an impact. They don’t wait for things to happen; they make things happen.
Nails? They get pounded. They hold things in place, but only because someone else decided that’s where they should be.
Nails wait for instructions. They stay put, keep their heads down, and hope they don’t get bent out of shape. Nails might hold things together, but hammers built the house.
No one remembers the nails — they remember who hammered them in.

The statue of David is an amazing piece of art. It was carved from an amazingly large piece of marble and stands about 17 feet. But what is also amazing about it is that no one was willing to do anything for a long time with the big block of marble. It was an under taking that no one would touch. Until finally one day an artist was willing to turn that block of marble into something. He chipped away at it. He just chipped away what was not the form known as David.
In the same way, we create who we are. We have things that are part of our life, our personality that don’t really belong. It could be heartache. It could be loneliness. It could be addiction. It could be depression. And you know what we can do? We can chip those things away. We can chip away the things that are not you. You are not heartache, loneliness, addiction, depression or anything else. Those things don’t belong.
What will be left is the beautiful creation of you.

Fear of change and having what you want.

It may be hard to believe, but there is a fear of change and a fear of having what you want. People are so at home in their comfort zone they don’t want to leave no matter how much pain there is there.

Plus, having what you want is an excuse to not succeed. If you don’t succeed in something, then you can have your “I told you so” moments. There is a sense of certainty in not getting what you want.

If you quit doing depression, your life is uncertain. You don’t know what to expect. It makes you nervous. You have to learn to be comfortable with a new way of life. You have to let go of new ways and embrace new ways.

New ways are a type of culture shock. It is like moving to a new city. But when you learn to embrace the new ways it feels so good. You learn your way around. You find new adventures. You learn a whole new way of life. And in time you stop feeling lost. You know your way around, and you no longer want to go back to where you were before.

The fear of asking. Sometimes we don’t ask for help due to a fear of asking. This is also a fear of rejection. Even if ask for help from someone who understands there is a fear that you will be rejected. It is hard to ask for what we want. But if you don’t ask you won’t get. It is that simple. There is a power in asking. It is taking control. It is standing up and fighting. It is being the rebel and saying I am control here depression, and I am taking my life back.

I wanted help. I did not want to ask. I did not have anyone to ask. Sure there are people out there who say they are there for you. They want to be able to be there for you, but unless they have done depression they can’t understand enough to help. They feel helpless and you feel hopeless. It does not have to be that way. So, I created my own system and helped myself. However, I knew how to help myself. Do you? This system is still available for $20.

THE FEAR OF STARTING:

I know that what keeps people with Depression from getting help is the FEAR of STARTING.

Trying something new can be hard. Starting just about anything is difficult. It is because you don’t know if you are ready. You think you should be prepared before you start. You want all your ducks in a row so to speak. Maybe you want the support of family and friends. before you start. But, INACTION breeds doubt and more fear.

To become the person you want to be takes getting started. And really, if you have the right guidance, your fear should be calmed.

When I started my journey of becoming free from depression, I was not scared, but curious if it would work. I did it alone, and there was nothing to fear. As soon as I started, I felt better. I think you would too. It really comes down to small experiments on what will work for you instead of depression. Find what works and repeat as necessary. This is the recipe for transformation in life.

Do you ever feel this way?:

Life has made me so quiet. No more talking. No more arguing. No more explaining. I’m tired of noise, of defending myself, of trying to be understood. I crave silence, peace, and stillness. I crave a place where I can simply be without the need for words.

People will say things like “I tried to talk to him/her. They don’t want to talk. HE/she says they are fine”.

When this happens, they think the person struggling with depression does not want help. They do. They don’t want to talk to people who do not understand. They are afraid. They don’t want to be humiliated. They don’t want to be put down. They don’t feel likable. They don’t think they are worthy of being helped. They want someone to lift them up even if they don’t want to admit it.

At least this was my experience when I struggled with depression. So, what do you do if you struggle with depression? You find either someone to talk to who understands or you get a course that you can do yourself. I took the lessons I learned from my life coach training and took it step-by-step to get my own depression under control. This simple system is still only $20. https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/