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Ladies and Gentlemen

Hey~

Times change. People change. Some change is good. Changes that create progress are good. But some changes seem to move us backwards as a society.

There was a time when people were more polite. There was a time when they were more considerate. People didn’t used to be so rude. People did not used to be so angry.

Lady: a woman who is refined, polite, and well-spoken

Gentleman: a civilized, educated, sensitive, or well-mannered man

There was a time when cussing or just foul language in public was rare. It was actually shocking. It was mostly done by men and men considered to be of low class. It was not used in everyday conversations. It was not used in music. It was rarely used by women. It was not casual.

Today, it is everywhere. One can barely get through a day without hearing the “F” word at least once. More than that, it is nearly impossible to get through a day without seeing someone “give the finger”. What is even more is that it not even shocking anymore. What was once used to give shock value to some thing now is virtually meaningless.

So, what is the big deal?

For starters it is rude. Saying crude, foul language and giving the finger is just plain trashy.

Anger. More than that this foul language and gesture expresses anger. It multiplies anger. It generates anger. Think about it. Do you feel more or less angry when you use certain language and gesture? Well, personally, I feel more angry. Just making a fist in anger makes you feel more angry.

Where are we headed? When did R rated movies become the norm? There was a time when seeing an R rated movie was edgy.

 I guess this all has to do with people becoming more and more in need of stimulation.

Loud. Why are we so loud? Have you ever noticed that people talk very loudly? We don’t have “indoor” voices anymore.

The point is that we have become a society of people who desperately need stimulation. We talk very loudly. We talk trash, and give rude gestures. So? So, all of this is promoting and spreading negativity and anger. We are becoming more and more angry.

We are out of control. We can’t control ourselves anymore. We can’t control our words. We can’t control our actions. We cuss, use foul language, cut each other off in traffic, we honk at cars who travel the speed limit. We use rude gestures all the time. This is all “knee jerk” reactions.

We are supposed to be evolving. But I hardly consider this to be evolving. All we have proven in the last 40 years is that women can be as rude as men. There are very few ladies and gentlemen any more. Actually, I cringe every time I hear those words misused. Ever watch a show with the police referring to a criminal as that gentleman. Really? No, he is not a gentleman for a gentleman would not be committing a crime.

Ladies and gentlemen are not rude. They are not crude. They are not so filled with anger that they cannot control their words or actions. They are polite, they are considerate. They don’t spit in public. They don’t litter. They are courteous. They are patient.

Challenge: I challenge you to become ladies and gentlemen. Stop using foul language. Stop using crude gestures. Stop talking loudly. Use your inside voices again. Be polite and considerate. Don’t litter. Take your trash home instead of throwing it out the car window. Don’t spit in public.

Why? To regain control. To relieve the anger. The more we act a certain way the angrier we are getting. I want to see us be more at peace. Controlling ourselves is the first step. How can we control the world, the environment, if we can’t control ourselves? To start the process of living in harmony.

If we all do this, we will be happier. We won’t be filled with so much hate.

Yeah!

Have a peaceful day!

Lisa Y. coaching, www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

 

Dear Santa

Dear Santa~

I have been very good this year.

I would like the following this year: 

A new bicycle. My bicycle does not work very well.

A new van. Mine is getting old.

Chocolate and ice cream that tastes great and has no calories.

Bread that has no carbs.

A year’s supply of my favorite energy drink. They don’t give me energy, but I like them and they are really expensive.

A new computer. You know how they get old.

Some crayons. I think coloring would be a nice new habit.

New pajamas. Mine have a hole in the knee.

You can skip the underwear, that is just not appropriate.

OK that is about it.

Thank you! Hello to the elves the rein deer and Mrs. Claus.

Love, Lisa

(Lisa Y coaching www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach)

Money is like air

Hello~

I hope all is well.

Unless you live in the wilderness and off the land, money is a necessity. It is hard to pay bills without it. For some, it is easy to come by. For others, it is hard to come by.

Why is that?

Well, if it is hard for you, it could be because of a mental block. It is could be “want”. When we want, we think in terms of not having. We think of the object we want to be in short supply. But it really is not. The government prints lots and lots of it. Smile, it’s funny.

Money is like air

Ever know someone who never has trouble making money? Any time they need money they just make some. Why is that? Well, for those who make money easily, money is like air. It comes in. It goes out. There is always more.

If you can grasp this concept, if you can accept it, you will be able to make money. You will always be able to have more any time you need it.

I know it is hard. If money has always been hard to come by, it is hard to accept this idea. But this is the concept of abundance. This is the opposite of want. Lose the desire to have, lose the idea that what you want is in short supply and you find abundance.

Take Care!

Lisa Y life coach

www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

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Hear it, get it

Hey~

Greetings~

So, I had the most amazing coaching session yesterday. Without going into details, this woman already knew certain things to be true. She knew it necessary to accept people as they are rather than wish they were more like her. She understood that everyone does their best. And yet, they don’t always live up to our hopes and expectations.

hearing it to get it

There is a difference between knowing something and accepting  it. We know what makes us unhappy.

In this case, this woman knew that other people are the way they are. She knew that they, like all of us, have their limitations. But, it still bothered her when people did not treat her the way she would treat them. But during her session, she heard this message. She heard that other people have their standards. And it clicked. Yes, people do their best. She always knew that but it as not until she heard someone else say it that it really sank in.

Then she realized that others were not trying to hurt her. They did not mean to hurt her. They were treating her the way the would expect to be treated. They really did not understand how they were hurting her.

prefer VS want

To not be disappointed in other people, it is important to understand the difference between prefer and want.

There is a way that we want things to be. This is how things would be if we were in charge of the world.

If we change want  to prefer, then we accept things as they are. We accept the world as it is. We accept people have faults. They are imperfect, and have different standards. If you can do this, you will relax and go with the flow of life.

RAT Relationship Acceptance Training learn to accept others as they are. Reconcile. Accept. Together.

I hope this helps.

Lisa Y coaching

www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

Surround yourself with people who believe in you.

Hey~

With out the right people in your life: Getting people to believe in a dream can be very difficult. Getting people to believe in you can be very difficult. Getting people to be supportive can be very difficult. Getting people to help can be very difficult.

Heartbreaking. If the above is true for you, that can be very heartbreaking. It can make you feel alone. It can make you feel stupid for wanting to do what ever it is you want to do. It can discourage you from trying.

Don’t give up. When you know what motivates you, you know what you need and how to meet your need on a higher level. You can break the old habit and start a new one.

Surround yourself with people who believe in you more than you believe in you. Either seek out people who have done what you want to do, or people who have over come obstacles. Find people who will build you up.

Me. You know you can count on me. If, by some chance, there is no one else, I will be there for you.

Yeah!

Lisa Y life coach

www.facebook.com/lisay

lift the dark cloud

Hey~

How are you?

How was your Thanksgiving? I hope your meal was better than mine. I opted for a beef roast and I over cooked it. I should have gone with my first choice, pizza. Pizza? Yep! In a nutshell, my mom died on Thanksgiving 2009. My aunt was with me and said “Let’s order pizza.” We did find a pizza place open  on Thanksgiving. So, I like tradition and thought pizza on Thanksgiving would be a nice memorial to mom.

 dark cloud

So, do you have a dark cloud? Is there some thing that just hangs over your life and bring you down? Is there something that just fills your every thought? I think all of us, to some degree or another,  have that at some time or another had that dark cloud. We have all had that one thing that just fills your life with despair. If it is bad enough, it may seem as if there is no hope. It may at times seem as if you are to fill every moment of your life doomed.

a worthwhile project

A worthwhile project of any sort can lift that dark cloud. Find a passion. When you find a passion, it will lift that dark cloud no matter how bad it it. It may be hard to believe, but getting into a worthwhile project will give you hope. It will lift that cloud.

It will work better than a bottle of wine, a six pack of beer, or a bottle of whiskey. It will work better than a pound of chocolate, a half gallon of ice cream or a pizza. Hey don’t get me wrong, I can do most of those things (I am not much of a whiskey drinker.) Why? Those things only numb the pain for a little bit. A project is long term and it gives you a sense of accomplishment.

not gone, but not all consuming

Now don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that a worthwhile project will remove the problem that causes the dark cloud and the sad feelings it brings. But, what I am saying is that if you find something, some passion to work on, you will lift that dark cloud.

You see, when you have a dark cloud that consumes your every thought, your spirit is injured. Your project will give you a sense of accomplishment. It will give you something else to think about.

It does not have to be a project. It could be volunteering. It could be exercising. It could be helping an elderly person. It could be listening  to some upbeat music. As long as it takes your mind off of the the dark cloud, that is all that matters.

And when you lift that dark cloud, your mind clears. Your spirit heals enough to bring hope back. When you do that, the answer can reveal itself. Then you make a plan.

If you need to make a change in your life, if you need someone to encourage you, and you have no friend  who can help or no friend who encourages you, you always have me.

Lisa Y life coach

www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

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Thanksgiving Quiz

Happy Thanksgiving!

Thanksgiving to me is so special and lost between Halloween and Christmas. It is more than the start of the shopping season.

My wish for you is that you not rush through the day to get it over with just to prepare for Christmas.

“We need a rebirth of gratitude for those who have cared for us the living, and, mostly, dead…we must remember them in our thoughts and prayers, and in our deeds.” ~William F. Buckley, Jr

Three hundred ninety five years ago, the Pilgrims and Native Americans joined together for a three day feast that has come to be known as the First Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving is America’s oldest tradition. The quiz below is an opportunity to test your knowledge of the original Thanksgiving and following observances of the holiday throughout our history.

Quiz: How much do you know about Thanksgiving

  1. 90 Indian men attended the first Thanksgiving in Plymouth, MA. in 1621. What was the name of their tribal confederation?  A) Wampanoag B)Apache C)Iroquois D) Sioux
  2. 18 Pilgrim wives sailed on the Mayflower. How many survived until the time of the first Thanksgiving? A) 10 B) 0 C)16 D) 4
  3. What food did the Indians contribute to the First Thanksgiving? A)Turkey B)Venison C) Salon D) Oysters
  4.  In 1926 President Calvin Coolidge received from Mississippi a gift of a live animal with a “toothsome flavor” intended for the First Family’s Thanksgiving dinner. What was the animal? A)Turkey B) Deer C) Rabbit D) Raccoon
  5. The “godmother of Thanksgiving” was a 19th century editor who campaigned for decades in support of a national day of thanks. What was her name? A) Harriet Beecher Stowe B) Sarah Josepha Hale C) Louisa May Alcott D) Lydia Marie Child
  6. Which college teams faced off in the first Thanksgiving football game in the 1870s, starting a nationwide mania for Thanksgiving Day football? A)Harvard and Dartmouth B)Princeton and Rutgers C) Princeton and Yale D) Columbia and Harvard
  7. Which President refused to issue a Thanksgiving proclamation on the grounds that the Constitution prohibits a president from “intermeddling with the religious institutions, their doctrines, discipline or exercise.” A) Thomas Jefferson B)George Washington C) John Adams D) Abraham Lincoln
  8. The word “succotash” comes from the Narragansett Indian word for “sohquttahhash.” What is it? A) grilled venison B) A stew of corn and beans C) A clambake D) A kind of pumpkin
  9. Religious days of thanksgiving have a long history in the Judeo-Christian tradition. In what is now the United States, several locations lay claim to being the site of the first “true” Thanksgiving Day, as celebrated by European settlers who arrived before the Pilgrims. Which of the following make such claims? A)San Elizario, TX B) St. Petersburg, FL C) Berkley Plantation, VA D) All of the above
  10. What year was the date of Thanksgiving codified into law as the fourth Thursday of November? A) 1901 B) 1967 C) 1941 D) 1863

Answers: Well, you can get those at www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

Have a great Thanksgiving!

Alone for the holidays?

Hey~

Quick note.

Being alone is worst during the holiday season. From Halloween through New Years, if you don’t have holiday plans, you really feel alone.

If it is Thanksgiving or Christmas, all you think about is what you are missing. If it is midnight on December 31st, you feel so alone.

I don’t want anyone to feel left out.

If you feel sad and alone on the holidays, I am here for you. You know where to find me.

Lisa Y coaching

www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach

Holiday safety

Hey~

So, the holiday season is upon us.

The good.

There are parties to plan. There are gifts to buy. There are decorations to display.  There is the snow. OK some of us have to travel to the mountains, but it is there for skiing and snow ball fights. There is also the opportunity for hot cocoa and for those 21 or older maybe a hot rum drink, and I guess some like eggnog. The retail stores have their selling season. Delivery companies need more help.  People are thinking about the kindness and joy they can spread. Most will think about what they can do to give their loved ones. Some think about helping out at a local homeless shelter perhaps. So much good going on you wish it would last all year. Personally, I don’t know why not.

The bad

This is burglary and robbing season. In the general area where I live, we have a network of neighbors who report things to one another. Strangers are snooping around houses. Just a few thoughts.

Be aware we are all neighbors. Become familiar of what is normal in your neighborhood. Look, I know you may be at work during the day. But when you are home find out what is normal. If you see something odd, call the police. If one or more persons seem to be going door to door, call the police. Talk to your neighbors. Do you know your neighbors? If not, start a neighborhood group to know them. Ask them if they know who may have been snooping around. Keep track of an unusual car parked over night or for an extended amount of time.

Examples of odd behavior noted around here.

People going door to door wearing shirts that make them look as if they belong to a local company. The company was called, and they said these people do not represent their company. Look, it is not hard to make up shirts to look as if you either represent a legit company or that you are a legit company. On this same note, be careful of people who approach you in a parking lot trying to get money for a charity. Just because they have printed shirts it does not mean they are truly with a charity. To donate to a charity, it may be better to go directly to the source.

Door check Here are two stories: First was a man with a van who walked right up to our house. Opened the door. He ran back to his van rather quickly when our very large dog burst through some doors and chased him out. His words, “wrong house” I kid you not. That is what he said. If my mom had not been home, and without a smart dog, our home would most certainly would have been burglarized. Second a young boy came up to the door and tried to open it (different house many years later). His father sat in a car in the street. When my mother asked the boy what he was doing his response was that he and his father were doing a door check to see if the door was locked. The idea here is that they wanted to make sure we were safe by keeping our door locked. What they would have done if the door had not been locked and my mother not home is unknown, but I think they were looking for an opportunity to burglarize. Moral of these stories is make sure to keep things locked. It is unfortunate that most of us have to have our doors locked, but that is society today.

Holiday parties are an opportunity for thieves. A few years ago, there was a neighborhood holiday party. You know the one where you go door to door. So, I did not feel up to going. But some teen boys thought this was an opportunity to loot I guess. When they thought I was at the party, at the first house on the other end of the street, they were climbing over my wall. Yep! They were going to break into the back of my house. When I stopped them, they said, “We thought you were going to be at the party.” That is how I knew why they tried to break in at that time. So, if your neighborhood has a party, just be aware. Keep your doors locked.

Shopping this time of year can be a time to be vigilant. Be aware. Be aware of your surroundings while going from the mall to your car. Please do not be preoccupied with a text message or the like. The robbers are out there. And don’t leave packages in plain view. If you have packages in your car, put them in the trunk. If you have a van or a truck, either cover them up with a blanket or something, or take them home.

Hey, I don’t want to be a negative person here. I want to remind you to be aware. As a child, we had our house burglarized more than once. It is a creepy feeling. It is an evasion. You feel violated. Your home feels dirty. It just is not the same. I have never been robbed, but that has to be even worse as it is against your person. I really don’t want you to have to go through a bad experience.

Be aware. Look out for your neighbors. And enjoy the good!

Peace!

Lisa Y coaching

www.faceook.com/lisaylifecoach

Peace after sadness

Hey~

How are you?

Just a quick note of success.

Someone I have been working with to get over a lot of sadness and distress today, had a major break though.

Weeks ago the “why” of certain action or inaction was uncovered.  The inner drive/motivator was pinpointed. And then, the use of deep meditation/hypnosis permission to release certain thoughts and beliefs began. It has not been all that long. I would say just a few weeks.

Today, I heard from this person. The news was without reason, without anything changing in her life, she feels better. She feels like a burden has been lifted. This after feeling in total despair for the last couple of years. Her life is not any better. But her emotional state is. And with that, I believe the motivation is there to make the change or do the action that is necessary to improve life.

I am so happy. I guess that makes two of us.

Yeah!

Lisa Y coaching