PLAY LIKE YOU HAVE ALREADY WON. Ever notice how when you know you have won you relax and actually do really well because you are relaxed. So, what ever it is you want to accomplish, imagine you have already won, relax and you will do very well.
Coach
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What is love?
Love is compassion. Love is kindness.
Love is holding a hand when it is cold.
Love is holding a hand to take on the pain of another and help them get through.
Love is helping another to face the world again.
Love is giving the strength to another to get up on their feet and try again.
Love is wiping a tear.
Love is clearing a confused mind.
Love is buying back the soul that was sold out of desperation.
Love is helping someone find their way when they are lost.
Love is giving hope when hope has come to an end.
Love is giving someone dignity.
Love is giving meaning to another life.
Love is calling someone friend.
Love is needing another.
Love is putting another high upon a pedestal
Love is lifting someone up so they can see heaven.
Love is being glad for another and sharing in their joy.
Love is turning someone’s lies about their self and help them to see their truth, beauty, and goodness.
Love is making another think is this real? Is this true?
Love is unconditional. Love is looking past flaws.
Love is being there and never leaving.
Love, Coach
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No one knows you better than you. But, we are not always honest with ourselves. We are not always honest with our true capabilities. We down play our assets. We sometimes give a little effort. Then when we do not get results we give up.
Or we let fear of success or failure take over and we choose to not work toward a certain goal. We are meeting one of our 4 survival skills and we are comfortable how we are doing it. It may not be the best way to meet that goal, but as long as we are meeting that need, we are satisfied. When we are not meeting that need, then we change what we have to in order to be fulfilled.
We simply hold back. Sometimes we like to keep something secret. You don’t want anyone to know you have the four aces, right? Or maybe you have an ace up your sleeve, and you don’t want to bring it into play prematurely.
But what if you took that ace out of your sleeve and played it? What if it meant opening up a whole bunch of possibilities for change and improvement in your life? Would you do it?
People hold that ace for when they really need it. But when is that?
I think what stops a lot of people from acting is the fear of looking foolish. You want to do something different. What will others think? Who cares? Necessity is the mother of invention. Necessity is also the mother of change. If you want to meet some need on a higher level, it is time to play that ace. And when you do smile and nod, “Yes, I had an ace.” Think how fun that will feel.
Amaze your family and friends.
So, What are you pretending not to know? What are you pretending you are not capable of doing?
Open the doors of possibilities. Enjoy!
Coach
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Who are you?
Beyond your name, beyond your family relations, beyond your job, who are you? What makes you you?
What are your values?
What are your motivators?
What are your passions?
What are your hopes and dreams?
Are you loving and kind?
Do you stop to help someone in need?
What makes you laugh? Cry?
What makes you special?
What makes you just like everyone else?
What makes you judge you?
Are you a saver? Spender?
Are you a follower? Leader?
Are you a doer?
Are you lazy? Procrastinator?
Ambitious?
Who are you? Do you know?
Just a few things to ponder.
Coach
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Touch, is one of the most vital things in life. It is not only vital for people but also for animals. We all need it. Wild animals touch one another to comfort or to show love. Domesticated animals do it to one another and also need it from their humans. And people need it.
I know a single woman who lives alone. She has few friends. She has two dogs. And the hugs she gives her dogs are vital to her mental well being. If she did not have the dogs, I don’t know what she would do to get this most vital thing.
After my mom had a stroke, one of the most important things she needed was my touch. She craved the touch of my hands on her face. I loved it as well. The pleasure I knew that it gave her was mine every time I placed my hands on her face.
How often do you think I wish I had someone to touch me right now? It is soothing. It brings peace. The dog next door to me gets very little attention. When I reach across the front yard fence to touch him, you should see the joy in his face. I like to share a little kiss as well. He looks at me as if I am the greatest person on Earth. It actually reminds me of the feeling I got touching my mom’s face.
If you know some person or pet that does not have a lot of opportunity, if any at all, for touch please take some time to give that most valuable sensation. You can change a life.
Thank you.
Coach
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“Do unto others as you would have done unto you.”
I know when I think that or even say that I do so because I don’t feel I am being treated properly. Someone is not treating me as I would treat them.
But has it ever occurred to you that maybe they are treating you the way they would expect to be treated?
Just because you do not think that someone is treating you properly it does not mean they are rude or inconsiderate.
For example, say you lent some money. And say the person who borrowed the money is making payments. But the payments were delayed and they are behind. If you had borrowed the money, you would pay extra to catch up the arrears. But the person paying you back does not try to catch up even though you know they can.
Your thoughts may be “Do unto others as you would have done unto you.” You think that because you think that catching up on the back payments is what everyone would think is the proper thing to do. (I would agree by the way.) But this person does not think that way. They feel that as long as they are currently making payments it is all good. You are getting your money back and that is the most important thing, right? So, to them, they are doing unto you as they would expect you to do if the roles were reversed.
Different expectations and standards.
People have different expectations and standards. What is acceptable to one is not acceptable to another. We see this everywhere. Just look at reviews of businesses. You can have some people thinking a business is great. Some think it is fair, and others think it is terrible. Go figure.
Anyway, it is important to remember this the next time you think you are not being treated as nicely as you would like. Just because you are not being treated the way you think is appropriate, kind, considerate, and fair and just consider the other person may have lower standards than you.
If you feel hurt, ask for the opinion of another person or persons. Find out if they think the person is treating you poorly or just not to your standards.
If the consensus is that you are getting bad treatment, then you would be justified to talking to that other person to try to get them to be more considerate.
If the situation is that they are not treating you up to your standards, sorry, but you just have to accept that. It may not be easy, but that is how it is. And you have to let it go. I know. That is easier said than done. If it helps, you, friend, have high standards and are a wonderful person. Not everyone can be as wonderful. If only… right?
So, I hope that helps. Remember other people have different expectations and standards. We all do the best we can.
Coach
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Be ready.
Having a very detailed plan is very hard to follow. It is also not flexible. A key to transformation, changing your habit, meeting your need on a higher level is flexibility.
You never know when life will through a curve ball to you. You have to be ready.
There should be a general plan. This should be more of an outline of the plan of action. But make sure you are flexible enough to go with the flow of anything that comes up.
Sometimes you have to let a plan come together its own way. As a friend of mine used to say, When you least expect it, expect it.”
Coach
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Hey~
I hope all is well with you.
As you progress to what ever it is you are working on, I want to remind you that every day, every project, has its challenges.
My old business.
I used to own a business. We worked with independent workers and not employees. The government does not like that arrangement so they try to discourage this business model through a lot of regulations. It drove me crazy. I was a member of a coalition of like business owners to keep aware of the laws. One small mistake and you could lose it all.
One day I talked about it with my office manager. She said, “If it were easy, everyone would do it.” That is probably true. It would be a lot more appealing to small businesses to have that business model. For that industry, it is the only way to operate the business otherwise costs would be too high and customers would not pay the fees, and a lot of people would not have work.
The point is that there are challenges. Some things come naturally to others and some have to work harder to do the same thing.
It is hard for me.
Things are hard for me. I am that person who understands the general concept of a thing, but doing it is a whole other thing. I go to workshops. I sit. I listen. I understand. But I walk out at the end of the three days thinking what did I get out of that? I usually feel cheated because someone did not give me their magic wand so I can make all my dreams come true.
Other people walk out with the magic wand. They have it. They have all the guidance and direction they need to make it happen. And I just sit there wondering what is wrong with me.
The last one I went to on the third day I sat next to someone new. We chatted. She had the magic wand. As we chatted, I expressed that I had gotten nothing from the work shop that I could use. She looked at me and said, “We were at the same work shop.” She seemed a little disgusted with my attitude. “I know.” was my response.
The point is that things are hard for me. Everything is a challenge.
Fight through it.
I am great at generating ideas and plans. I can create the step-by-step plan. And I have to do it that way. I can’t just go to a work shop and start doing the thing. But I push through. So, when I tell you to push through, I am not doing it from the perspective of life is easy and the answers are simple. I am doing it from the perspective that life is challenging.
If this thing that you are trying to accomplish, when you hit a challenge, fight through it. If it worth it to you, if you really want it, you have to fight through it. As you work though the challenge, it will get easier. Why? Because you learn. The more you get involved in something the more you learn the ins and outs. As you push through, you see how all the components fit together.
You really just have to get over that hump.
Coach
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Change is a habit.
You built your life just as it is by creating habits. Everything you do is a habit.
Law of Habit: Any thought or action you repeat becomes a habit.
At first, you have to think about this new way of doing something. It takes effort and willpower. You naturally want to do things the familiar and easy way. But as you practice a thing, it becomes part of your conscious mind. It becomes automatic.
Good Habits.
For success in anything, you need to build on good habits and kick the bad habits out of your life.
If there is someone who has accomplished what you want to accomplish, do what they do. Follow their habits. And know that they still follow the habits that got them where they are.
If you change your eating habits to lose weight, would you change your eating habits once you lose weight? Not if you want to keep the excess weight off. This is true for everything. Do what you have to do to meet that goal and keep the habits you followed to get there.
Sow a thought and you reap an action.
Sow an action and you reap a habit.
Sow a habit and you reap a character.
Sow a character and you reap a destiny.
Coach
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Your reserve tank.
Trying to do something new can be hard. I know. Unless you have someone guiding you all the way or have a lot of related experience, it can be draining.
If you feel you have given all you have, look again. We are not used to pushing ourselves to our limits. Heck, we don’t even know what our limits are. You may be going down this new path and asking “Am I there yet?”. How many times have you thought you reached the peak just to find a small valley and a new peak? That is what you find on the road to success. Even the most successful people have had that experience over and over again.
Sometimes I think that we make some random maximum that we can do. Or we create some maximum effort a thing will take to accomplish. But how can we determine what that maximum can be? You can’t determine that until you get to doing a thing. There are no magic numbers.
It is better to just start without some preconceived maximums. If, for example you want to see how far you can walk. Maybe you think you can walk 2 miles. So, you figure out a route to take to walk two miles. So then what? Is it absolutely impossible for you to take another step? Maybe. You really don’t know how far you can walk if you limit your effort to the two mile cap. Your legs will not stop functioning at the two mile point. The same is true for anything you take on as a challenge.
You have heard this before— one more. If you are fortunate enough to have the right person in your corner, you have someone that will encourage you to do one more.
Sometimes we have a goal line in our sights. We know we can meet that goal. But we don’t think we can go past that. We hit that goal and stop. And that is perfectly fine. If you don’t desire or need to get past that goal, good for you! You reached your goal. Enjoy! But if you would like more than that, then change your focus to beyond that goal. Keep the momentum going.
I told you before to celebrate meeting goals. And you should. But if you hit a major goal, and think I can’t get past this look in your reserve tank. You are probably only about 40% of your capacity.
Think about a foot ball field. You are on the 50 yard line. Imagine having to do a fireman carry 30 yards. You are determined. You pick up the person and you make it the 30 yards. Then you drop the person. OK, maybe you did not drop him. Now. what if you were blindfolded? What if you did it without knowing where the 30 yards end? You have a fitness instructor watching who says he will let you know when you have met the goal. So you carry the person down field. 10 yards. 20 yards. 30 yards. Boy, this is hard. 40 yards… am I there yet? No, Keep going. 45 yards… not yet? No. Keep going. 50 yards. The instructor says OK, you made it. You drop the person. You remove the blind fold and see you went 50 yards. You surpassed that random number of capability 30 yards and went 50. You tapped into your reserves.
Look, if you only want to go 30 yards that is fine, but if you want to get into the end zone tap into your reserve tank. The best way to do that is with encouragement from a friend. So, find someone who believes in you enough to get you there.
How hot is it?
Sometimes not knowing how hard it is to do a thing is a good thing. I remember one hot summer day. My mom was weeding in the front yard. She told me that as she worked she looked at the people driving by and they were all shaking their heads. They thought she was crazy. Why? Well, it turns out the temperature was 101. Yep! There was my mom working in that triple digit heat. She must have been in her 60s. She told me, “I didn’t know it was that hot.” And not knowing how hot it was, she didn’t think anything about working in the yard. She did not know it was too hot to work. If she had known it was that hot, she might have stayed inside and not accomplish what she accomplished.
Keep going.
It may be tough sometimes, but keep going. Find your reserve tank and forget about the heat.
Coach
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