Month: December 2024

Have you ever been upset by a FB meme? Someone has posted a meme and it makes life seem so easy. Just _____ and life will be great.
These sort of memes bug me so much. First of all, it isn’t normally so easy to do what they say to do. It is suggested that everyone who sees it will automatically know how to do what it says. They don’t give instructions on how to do it. And for people who struggle with depression, it will often make them feel worse. Why? Because you want to be able to change, but you don’t know how to and you feel less than other people. You think other people can do this and I can’t. If you want to change and need guidance you can find it here: https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

So you are having what you may call a depressive episode. You are not in a good way mentally. The people in your life try to cheer you up. If you are anything like me when I was struggling with depression, my thought is “please don’t”. Then I fake a smile and say something nice to show my appreciation. I appreciated the effort, but it was not helpful. Am I right?
The problem is that they don’t get it, and think you just feel a little bummed out or something.They know what will help them so they try to help you the way that would be helpful to them. They think doing something fun will help. Maybe some exercise will help. How about a nice massage? Right? All of this makes you feel as if you just don’t fit in. You feel different. You long to feel this way. You really wish that their ideas will make you feel better.
You can feel this way. It takes a little effort, but you can fit in. I did depression for nearly 40 years. I have an understanding of it. I understand me. I understand you. Help can be found here:
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Is it hard to open up to people because they do not understand your depression? There is a lot of confusion about what it is and what it is not. I share things really easily. I don’t know why it is really easy for me to share. I don’t have that need to feel safe. I guess I am comfortable with who I am.
BUT
I did say the wrong thing once. And my best friend said that I was being influenced by the devil. I am not. Depression or anxiety or anything similar has nothing to do with being possessed. Ever since I have been very guarded with what I share with her.
Maybe you all feel that way. Do you feel guarded because you feel you will be thought of in a negative light? That is a legitimate fear.

But it is all based on a general misunderstanding about what depression is and is not. It is not mental illness. It can be controlled.
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When it comes to depression, people shut down. They do because they don’t want to talk to someone who doesn’t understand. People who do not understand try to help, but they more often than not say the wrong or not helpful thing. They see life from their perspective and say what would help them. It takes having struggled with depression and conquering it to understand what to say and what not to say. This is why I believe that most counselors or therapists can’t help. They have not been through it. It takes more than empathy. I did depression for nearly 40 years. I have risen above it. Help is available here: https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

Frustration is big when you struggle with depression. Everyone gets frustrated. But depression makes it worse. Computers can make anyone crazy. We can have a love-hate relationship with them. But to go into a rant and scream and yell at one when one is not doing what you would like is not what you want to be doing. It should not be wasting your energy. But when you get angry like that with a computer, you are really expressing your frustration with something else in your life. Some other aspect of your life is not going as you would like. You may or may not know what that is. But, that is why you yell at your computer. When you understand you better, you will not scream at a computer. You will recognize what is making you crazy in life and you will have a positive reaction and take care of it. Sounds good, right? https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

One of the ways of doing depression is to get overly frustrated. I used to have such a short temper and rant over the dumbest things. I can remember trying to get the shell off a hard cooked egg. The shell just would not come off. I went into a rage. Could I have controlled it? Yes. I didn’t want to control it. I wanted to be out of control. Then once I got it all out I was fine. I needed to release the energy. Have you ever felt this way?
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There is confusion about depression. There is a thought that if you have a good life you won’t have depression. I have had people say to me I have a good career, good family, friends, but I am still depressed. But think about it. there are plenty of people with fame and fortune who struggle with depression. There are people who are homeless who do not struggle with depression.
What does that tell you? It should tell you that it is not the life you have that determines whether or not you use depression. It is that you choose to use depression. Hear me out. You don’t want to struggle with depression, but your subconscious created the use of depression to help you through life stress. Once you get used to it you are comfortable in the use of depression. It becomes a hard habit to break. But it is not impossible. I did after nearly 40 years, and I don’t want to go back. How I did it is a course I developed. It is called Come Into Your Power. This and other options are here:
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The year is coming to a close. Personally, I make New Year Resolutions on my birthday. But most people start to think about what they want next year to be like.
My challenge to you is to design a lifestyle that it optimized for your overall happiness. Don’t let fear hold you back.
The problem is that we have a ton of stuff pulling at us from moment to moment. That chaos keeps you from consistently winning. When you can’t focus, you lose control. So how do we prevent ourselves from losing focus on our goals or losing control of our lives? We design a checklist to regain focus.
What could this be? Here are some suggestions:
( )Figure out why I do depression
( )Create an empowering alternative
( )Find a support system
( ) Practice new empowering alternative
( ) Have depression 90% controlled
This is your dream year. How do you want your next 12 months to turn out for you? Dream big. Dream details. You may not accomplish everything. That is okay. The list is to prioritize your time. You may stop at times. That is okay too. You have 52 chances to start.
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