Month: November 2024

Nearly every impulse we have is to be tight with our ideas, feelings, desires, hopes and dreams. This can make transformation difficult. On one hand you want to tell the whole world about your exciting idea and plans for a better you. On the other hand you are afraid to tell people in case it does not happen. But it is important to not keep your desires secret. It is important to fight through your natural instinct and tell people. Why? You need support. You need encouragement. It is easier to work on self-improvement with a circle of friends.

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I know it can be hard to ask for help. It can be uncomfortable. Introducing the coffee challenge:
Go to a coffee shop or fast food place and make a simple order and ask for 10% off. Don’t say anything else. The whole point is to feel uncomfortable. Once you see nothing bad will happen, you will gain confidence in asking for things that are uncomfortable. This can include getting therapy, asking a friend or family to listen to you or having someone help you with something.
If you get turned down for the 10% discount, just say “Okay”. But smile and nod knowing you found the courage to ask, and nothing bad happened. It is also practice in getting rejected or having a setback. You have to try even if you fail. You won’t fail every single time. You will have wins.
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Leaving your comfort zone. There is an illusion of taking a risk. You may look foolish, be judged, or it won’t work. But not taking risk, leaving your comfort zone is like wearing a straight jacket on your potential. Embracing risk, fear, and rejection gives you the power to transform your life. You have to stop avoiding a better life and be open to receive. I know that can be scary. But you can move past that. I did, and you can too.
Remember I told you to you need to embrace setbacks. Setbacks only happen when you try something new. Setbacks tell you that you need to make an adjustment so that you can do what you set out to do. As you proceed, you will have fewer and fewer setbacks and more wins. The key is to desensitize yourself to the pain by repeatedly exposing yourself to it. Embrace the discomfort and use it as your compass.
I can hold your hand. I can guide you. I have been there.
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Chutzpah, Moxie, Nerve, Audacity, or the don’t give a crap approach to life. is knowing what you want in life and you go for it. It is endless tenacity. You will do what it takes. It is asking for what you want despite the fear.
Most people don’t ask for what they want. They wish for it. They make suggestions and drop hints. They hope. It is only by asking that you receive what you want.
No ASK. No GET. This applies for every part of life. Every part.
You deserve to have the life you desire. Having the life you want is also being able to receive.
Want change? Want help? Ready to receive? All you have to do is ask. You will find your answer here:
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Setbacks.

Love setbacks! Collect them like treasures, and do not be discouraged by them. I know that makes no sense. It means you are trying. There can be a bit of experimentation when you transform. You won’t hit the bullseye with every step that you take. But with every setback, you try again. You will get wins.

When you have a setback, remind yourself that you are one step closer to finding the win for you. When a setback comes, say Who Cares? It is leading you to where you want to go. What you tried is not the way for you. Go in another direction and you will find your way. Need guidance? https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

Focus your mind on what matters. Many people struggle to meet their first goal because they are so focused on their final goal. It is better to focus on each step you need to take and take each step one at a time. What can you do to improve this week Today? Right now?
If you commit to nothing, you’ll be distracted by everything.
Successful people just start.
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Don’t be afraid to act. Be afraid of living a life that seems more like an empty void than an adventure.
Starting new things and following your fear makes life seem magical. This is all about building a beautiful life. It is a path to renew and reinvent your life.
While you are at it toot your own horn.

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The Magic of Now not How
Start. Experiment. Don’t overthink.
People dream of being happy and fulfilled. They dream about feeling free and not trapped in an unhappy life. Why do they dream? They dream because they are afraid to start. They want to make sure they are doing the right thing. They want it to be perfect. They worry about HOW. But when you need a better life, Now is what is important. Sometimes we have to start before we are ready. Why? Because you may never feel ready.
Overthinking is a big block for change. You can’t overthink and act later. Thinking before action is merely speculation. You can’t really understand something until you have done it. You can’t plan your way to confidence. Now not How.
Pro tip: If you are overthinking and not taking action, tell yourself to prioritize taking action Now, and don’t worry about How. This will create momentum for every step you need to take. The more you do it the more natural it becomes. I can help.
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THE DOLLAR CHALLENGE:
Ask someone you know for a dollar investment in you. This is your spark. Once you do this you realize the power of starting and the simplicity of life improvement.
In exchange, they will get regular updates and a front-row seat to the process of building up you and your life. You will ask this of family, friends, colleagues. This is an oh Sh** moment, but it will get your heart racing in a good way. It brings excitement. You are really doing it. It is official. You are committed to the process.
What to say: Hey, I am working with a life coach and she told me I need to get $1 from someone. You’re the first person I thought of, and it would mean a lot to have your support.
“Do the thing that you fear, and the death of the fear is certain”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Pro tip:
Stop comparing yourself to other people. When you do this, you will feel that you have fallen short as a person. This eats at you and you give up. Don’t base your opinion of yourself or your self-worth on your struggle with depression. Your self-worth as a person is not based on how you deal with life stress. You are a worthy person. You have value. I know you struggle with that idea. I did too. You have assets, good qualities. You do.
Rather, define yourself by the things you do each day to work on getting depression under control. It is a process. When you do this, you will get where you want to be quicker and more joyfully than measuring yourself against others.
We all do the best we can with the tools we have in our toolbox. You are currently using depression. With my guidance, you can develop a better tool. I did. For guidance options: https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/