Month: September 2024

My focus as a life coach is to help people in two different ways. One is to help people who struggle with depression and anxiety. The other is to guide people wanting to grow as a person.
For me, my first need to getting the life I wanted was to stop doing depression. I found the answer while I studied to be a life coach. When I did the diagnosis questions, I understood me. For the first time, I understood me.
From there, I started to find better ways to not be so overwhelmed. I learned to clear my mind of all the confusion. I learned how to control certain thoughts. I let them come, I acknowledged them and then I let them go. Those thoughts of being overwhelmed come up still, but now I control them. I relax. I calm myself down.
After I learned to not struggle with depression, I was ready to achieve. I wanted to build on what I had accomplished. I used certain tools to define my passion. I used certain tools to determine what path I wanted to take in life. What did I want to accomplish? I also used certain tools to know that I am am okay no matter what. I did not have to accomplish great things in life. I just had to go in the direction that was to lead me to my passion.
You can do the same. I am not saying it will always be easy. It more than likely will not always be easy. But any advancement in life, any little bit that makes life better is a worthy goal. It takes time and practice.
My advice to you is to make it fun and that can make it easier.

One of the worst things that was ever said to me was when my very good friend thought my depression was the devil controlling me and my mind. She thought I needed Jesus. This was incredibly stupid. First of all, I already had Jesus. Second, depression is not mental illness and no one has control over your mind but you. Depression is a tool. It is something you use to cope with life issues. It is a habit. Knowing that do you understand that it is something you choose to do? You did not consciously make the decision to start using this tool. You can choose to stop using this tool. You do need to replace it. I did and so can you. https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

When I was in college, I met someone got a kidney transplant. He said to me, “You don’t know how sick you are until you get better”.

That has stuck in my mind ever since. I did depression for nearly 40 years. When I stopped crying every day, stopped being overwhelmingly frustrated, stopped being uncomfortable in public, I knew I was better. I stopped all of that and more by getting my depression under control. I was not sick, but I did struggle with depression. I had become so used to it, that I did not realize how much better I would feel without it. https://lylcoach.lchlegacy.com/

Lesson from a little league team:

These little guys (and gals) played the hand that was dealt to them and they WON!! In the beginning, they had all 9 players, but a few of them needed to leave for another team/tournament at half time… Knowing this was coming, the coach gave us parents the choice to forfeit before the game even started. The majority agreed to PLAY and we SHOWED UP!! The coach knew what he had to do, pushing our team hard in the 1st half to get the score up 3-1. The entire 2nd half consisted of strong defense and we we shut them out, ending the game 3-1. The other team was strong and they out numbered us… they just couldn’t break through our defense and score. To be honest, even if they would’ve killed us 12 to 3, I wouldn’t have changed a thing. There are no guarantees in life, all we can do is show up and do our best. NEVER back down from a challenge and NEVER give up!!