Month: January 2020

Sometimes things are out of our control. Sometimes there is not much we can do. Sometimes we need to let things play out.

This can be hard, right? It is hard to have something be happening, and not act if it disturbs you. If you want to get involved or help, and you can’t, it can be frustrating. If something is out of control, there are two basic things to do. The first thing to do is understand that this is a lesson in letting go.

Sometimes you just have to let things calm down. They will. But when things are flared up, it sometimes is best to just let the fire cool off. When things cool off, then you will be able to do something.

If the ball is not in your court, you have to wait. It is not up to you to fix it.

The second thing to do is take this cooling off time to heal. If you have been impacted by this out of control situation, heal. My suggestion is to heel to heal.

What the heck does that mean?

Heel to me means to take a step back. It means to immediately follow, but be a step behind. Stay close, but keep a step back. Keep an eye on the situation. And while you go about your business waiting for things to calm down you heal.

When you heel a situation, take a deep breath. Pause and reflect. Count to ten so to speak. This is all part of the healing process from any mental or emotional pain that may have risen from this out of control situation. Talk about it to someone if you need help to sort it out and to get another perspective.

By the time the flames have settled, the fire has cooled, now you are ready to tackle the situation. If you have done heeling, you too are calm, cool and collected. And the situation will be handled more easily.

I hope this helps.

Cheers!

Coach Lisa

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I have become more aware of looking at how words and names are spelled to find significance or meaning.

Over time the way certain words are spelled changes. It can be from poor handwriting. It could be from spelling from how the word sounds. It can just be adding or removing letters. It is this change in spelling that makes new words.

One example is God’s luck to good luck.

Today the word and name are pilot and Pilate.

I don’t think this is a strange coincidence. I am suggesting that the man named Pilate became a pilot. The question is what does it mean?

A pilot is one who guides. A pilot is a leader. Often a pilot is to get people through a difficult course. If ever there was a difficult course in history, the decision to crucify the Son of God, this was one.

It is told that Pontius Pilate’s own son was healed by Jesus. His wife, Claudia, had become a follower of Jesus. He did not want to do it. He felt pressured to make the decision he made.

So, against his better judgement, he sentenced Jesus to death. He was the pilot of this difficult course in history.

I will leave this part of the discussion here. But I want you to become more aware of words. When you have a question of why, look at the words. Look at the word differently.

Here is another example:

A client of mine has bad migraine headaches. There are a variety of reasons for headaches. But I am having her look at it from the meaning of the word migraine.

When I look at the word I see: MY GRAIN. Grain…a small amount of something as in a grain of truth. Natural lines as in wood or paper. You want to cut paper or wood with the grain. I sense that my client is going against the grain. She is doing things her way. She is doing things in a manner that is not conventional. That is fine unless it causes conflict in your life. And I think that is exactly what is going on.

She may just be going against the grain too much making life hard to get through. Because as you know, it is hard to go against the grain.

So, that is my thought today on words and looking at other meanings or reading between the lines so to speak.

I hope this gives you something to ponder. I hope it gives direction. I hope it helps you to be a pilot in your troubled waters.

Cheers!

Coach Lisa

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Giving somebody back the ability to smile is priceless.

And that ultimately is my goal.

Some of us, me included, seem to have a difficult time navigating through life. We get to a point in life where we fall to our knees. We put our head in our hands. We feel weak. We want to be backed but alas are alone.

We don’t want to see all those posts on Facebook with pictures of rainbows and unicorns telling us we can have that. Why? Because we don’t believe it.

We don’t want to see the posts on Facebook from our friends who are happy and life is just grand for whom life seems to be so effortless. Sure, they have bumps in the road, but it does not seem to be anything they can’t just get over quickly. These are the friends who can even lose a lot and without much effort they have it resolved and move on.

If anything, we follow groups where the leader of the group just talks on and on about how bad they feel without any real helpful information on how to get better.

Please, if you feel bad, stop following those “woe am I” groups. They are not helpful.

We are in the gutter. We are at a crossroads. In one direction, we can fall into the sewer drain and get washed away. In the other direction, we can look up and join the rest of society. That is where we want to be, right?

That is what I did. I took my head out of my hands. I stood up. I did not have anyone to back me. I had to stand on my own two feet all by myself. I pulled myself out of the the gutter.

I want you to understand that the first steps are the hardest. But once you get going in the right direction, it gets easier.

I never thought I would stop constantly crying. I never thought I would stop falling to my knees. But I have. I still feel scared sometimes. I still feel alone at times. But I am not like that all the time. And when I start to feel that way, I take a breath. I find my peace inside and continue on with my day.

Now, there was a time in my life when that last sentence would get the response of rolled eyes and think, “Oh brother”. Gag. I thought finding my peace inside was lame just like those unicorns and rainbows posts. But it happened.

I won’t lie to you either. You may be one of the individuals for who navigating through life is always going to be harder. I will always struggle. But, I have gotten to a point where, I am at peace, or I can find peace, and I believe you can also.

You can do it your self if you have the right understanding of your life. If you understand your biggest need. Or you can get guidance. There are a lot of people who can help. But, they need to understand how you feel. It takes one to help one so to speak.

I want to give you your smile back. It may not seem possible right now. But I got mine back, and I do believe you can too.

If you want my help or not, at least let me offer my friendship. OK? I have a support group. It is small, but growing. We have room for you. You can find us at: www.facebook.com/coachLisa

If you want to make a post, that is fine. One rule, no political posts.

I know someone who is behind bars for drug crimes. And he always says Smile for me. Will you do that? Will you smile for me?

Cheers!

Coach Lisa