Until this week I was a fan of Big Brother. But following a private spoiler group, I just could not put up with it anymore. Why? Well, the people in the group were so negative. It was so bad, I had to stop watching all together.
But they did inspire this blog which I think is very important.
One of the house guests is Christie. I like her, but people are hating her because they don’t like her tears. Many people say she has crocodile tears. They say she cries to get things her way. These same people are entertained watching her “melt down”. They think this is fun and funny.
I am here to tell you it is not.
Let me explain. All crying is done to fill the need for love and connection. It is giving love and connection to the self. So when Christie does that, she is feeling a need to comfort herself. The more she does that, the more she needs it.
These are not crocodile tears. There is no such thing as crocodile tears. All tears come from a legitimate need.
People who cry a lot are not cry babies. We all fill our basic needs in different ways. Crying is one method to fill the need for love and connection. If one does it a lot, then there is a great need for it.
So, please have compassion for people who tend to cry a lot. They are not trying to manipulate nor are they babies. And this is not entertainment.
A little more on this subject. The opposite need of love and connection is the need for significance. This is the need to feel you matter. We all have it. When one feels a lack of significance, they lean on the opposite need (love and connection) and do what they do naturally to fill that need.
This action of crying is a knee jerk action. It is done without even thinking. Therefore, it is not done to manipulate. It is done to fill the need for love and connection and to fill the gap for the sense of significance or a sense of self which is missing.
OK, that is all for today.
Cheers!
Coach Lisa, www.facebook.com/coachLisa