Month: February 2017

Valentine’s Day

 

For those who are sad and disappointed that they’re not in a coupling for Valentine’s Day, it would be wiser to look to a model of fulfilled single people than to the Hallmark model.
Hallmark, and the companies that followed suit, had mostly profits, not truly the celebration of real love, in mind.

Single people who are happy, content, fulfilled, and balanced have the better model, the better grounding in life.

To everyone, I would suggest a celebration of love of Self. Do something nurturing & appreciative for yourSelf. Fall in love with yourSelf ~ it is the basis for all other relationships, always.

To those who are in a coupling, it’s still wise to look to a model of contentment, love, and respect, rather than paper hearts and chocolate.

(And I love chocolate!)

Wishing you the best Valentine’s Day

Lisa Y lifecoach

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Never need others more than they need you

NEVER NEED OTHERS MORE THAN THEY NEED YOU

So, it is a lonely feeling needing others too much. You become afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. You are afraid of having them walk away. And then, either losing everything  or  not getting what you need.

It is hard being under someone’s  thumb. They have complete control over you. You feel weak. You  feel resentment. You may even hate that person or persons.

Then you hate yourself for getting in that position in the first place. Then you dwell on it. It eats away at you. You start chasing your tail trying to figure out what to do. You feel alone. Then what?

You may have told a friend or two. They help the best they can, but then they give up.

You feel stuck.

Sigh.

Do you feel this way? Have you given up your power?

I  hate to admit it, but I gave up my power. It was years ago. You can regain your power. You deserve it.

Now, I am not suggesting that you want to be in a position to have others be indebted to you. I don’t want you to take the power away from others. The answer is to be understood, and to get people to do the right thing. Find a middle ground so there is a win win situation. But, it is not easy. Having people give up power is not an easy task.

You need to find your strengths. Find what you can do to stand up against this bully or bullies. Everyone has a weakness. Find their weakness. What do they want? What motivates them? Use that to your advantage. Help them to meet their needs and take you out from under their thumb. As unbelievable as it may sound, they will actually be happier. Why? because they will be meeting their needs on a higher level. And when you do that, you feel powerful. You feel you can accomplish anything.

OK, I hope that helps. Or at least gives you ideas on how to improve  a less than optimal situation.

Take Care!

Until next time then, this is Lisa Y life coach wishing you the power and control of your life you deserve.

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My loyalty to you

LOVE IS A TWO WAY STREET. DO YOU EVER FEEL THAT YOU LOVE AND CARE FOR OTHERS MORE THAN THEY CARE FOR YOU? IF SO, REMEMBER, YOU HAVE A FRIEND IN ME. I WILL STAY WITH YOU AS LONG AS YOU NEED ME.

A PERSON WHO VALUES YOU would not put themselves in a position to lose you. I hope I never put myself in that position.

TRYING TO GET PEOPLE TO LIKE you or care about you enough to help you is pointless. Good friends already will be supportive, and the rest just won’t so don’t get upset that they won’t. You will never have to try to get me to be supportive.

Thoughts for today:

DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE THINKING ABOUT YOU. IT IS MY EXPERIENCE THAT PEOPLE REALLY DON’T THINK ABOUT YOU AS MUCH AS YOU MAY BE FRETTING.

The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
— Elbert Hubbard

I learned a long time ago that there is something WORSE THAN MISSING THE GOAL, and that’s not pulling the trigger.
~Mia Hamm

Finally,

I KNOW THIS IS INAPPROPRIATE AND NOT PROFESSIONAL, BUT I WANT WHOEVER SEES THIS TO KNOW — I LOVE YOU. WISHING YOU A GREAT DAY!

Lisa Y life coach www.facebook.com/lisaylifecoach