As you know misery loves company so the millisecond that you start to change for the better, all bets are off. People will start to turn on you, talk about and even feel free to speak to others on your behalf. The negativity will come from every angle, and hit you on every part of your being–including below the belt. The origin of the punches do not discriminate and will come from friends and family. The hardest part of your transformation will be the point when you act on your need to change. Do you have the stamina to outlast the negativity?
Remove yourself from your feelings and emotions for a moment, step back and observe the people that take the liberty upon themselves to observe you.
– they are one not going after what they desire
– they are the one sitting in relationships that are not healthy
– they are the one complaining about how they are being treated at work or at home
– they are the one viewing everything from a negative point of view
– they are the one saying “if only….”– waiting for something to come to them
– they are the one mistreating you– it gets worse when they realize that they are losing their punching bag or their partner in misery
THEY ARE THE ONE JUDGING YOU!!! It is all about the manipulation to lure you back down to their level.
Ask yourself some questions:
– Is your change in the best interest for you?
– Have the people “speaking on your behalf” ever asked you your point of view? If so, do they twist your words?
– Do they understand your struggle or how you have been damaged by your experiences? If so, do they care?
People get stuck in their own rut and they tell themselves that they are being selfless by enduring pain inflicted by others in order to justify what they do. Therefore it is hard for them to compute in their minds how you could possibly do something for yourself. They will use words like un-loyal, ungrateful, unappreciative and selfish to describe you. It is up to you to decide what is truly right– you are smart. That is why feelings and intelligence have such a love-hate relationship.
You can always hang around with misery, it invites people in everyday– as always the choice is yours.
Jamillah Foulkes~Empower U