Do not act on impulse. Things happen in relationships that constantly make you second guess your relationship and as Murphy’s law would have it, the wrong influences always show up at the right time.
You have a heated argument with your partner:
– That old flame from ions ago sends you a message to check up on you
– You see some hot person that suddenly starts engaging you with meaningful conversation
– Someone you were interested in before you met your partner suddenly has a come to Jesus moment that tells them they have to be with you.
It never fails, you can almost put it into your timeline— heated discussion and no one talking to the other, here comes someone that is willing to talk to you armed with every compliment in the book. That is when you have to pump the brakes and reflect. Everything that looks good is not good. The most venomous creatures in nature are usually the prettiest and most colorful. You should not react to these temptations when you are having trouble in your relationship. Of course it creates more problems than you originally started with. It also blurs your view of the temptation in front of you leaving you unable to make a true and valid assessment because of all the emotions that you are feeling. An assessment is based on facts and acting of impulse is based on emotions and feelings and usually do not end up well.
How to soothe your impulse:
– Take a deep breathe
– Think about the consequence and impact your actions will have on yourself and/or others
– Decide if you will have regrets
– Immediately contact your partner so that you can work on your issues
That is a lot to try to do when you are about to act impulsively but that is the point. If you try these things it will take you out of the moment long enough to think things through. Things can spiral out of control very quickly sometimes it becomes such a mess that it is not repairable.
Every relationship has ups and downs, someone is usually all in when the other is ready to be out, that’s why you are a team. Sometimes one is pulling more weight than the other but if you have a good foundation with mutual love and respect then you can work through those moments. Your grass can be greener too if you water it.
Empower your relationship, do not allow one moment in time to ruin a good thing. As always if your partner isn’t willing to work on issues in the relationship, the choice is yours.
~Empower U