If you get offended when talking about sex do not continue to read. Are you being sexually fulfilled in your relationship? It is easy for people to share the most intimate part of their body with someone and that someone may be a person they just met, yet when it comes to talking about sex people are embarrassed. Does your partner know what turns you on or what your fantasies are?

Ten to 15 percent of American women have never experienced an orgasm. You have to allow yourself to change your self talk. You have to tell yourself “You know what? I’m going to enjoy this.” Give yourself permission to relax and go with the flow. You have to let all the craziness from the day out of your head so that you can enjoy the moment. Some reasons for not having an orgasm include sexual anxiety, and fear of letting go.

I’m not talking about the sex that you have when you are young and you just want to please your partner and everything is good. This is the sex that you have when you want to feel valued and have your happy ending too.

Fifty to 75 percent of women who have orgasms need clitoral stimulation and are unable to have an orgasm through intercourse alone. Even for women who do orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone, most still need the right position to provide clitoral stimulation. You have to know how to please yourself in order to communicate your needs to your partner. Masturbation is a great way to explore what makes you feel good so you can show your partner. And no, in my humble opinion masturbation is not a sin, it is you pleasuring your own body and if you can make love and have sex with a partner then you can have sex with yourself.

It is hard today because everyone is busy and tired but once you learn how to communicate your sexual wants and desires it can be a powerful ending to a stressful day and you deserve to be satisfied.

Reference:
— Understanding the Female Orgasm, Al Cooper, Ph.D., Sex Therapist, July 2003.