When you are unsure about who you truly are you tend to settle for what looks good right now even if you feel uncomfortable in that relationship majority of the time. If I polled everyone on here the majority of you would say that you are strong, confident and sure of you are as a person. The truth however, shows itself in the company you keep, the kind of relationship you have and what you tolerate from from family.
I associate with a lot of people because I know where I came from and I try to educate and uplift others to do better and be better just as others have done for me. My close friends that I have, keep me grounded and I go to them for support, guidance and unbiased truth. The friends you have that are close to you should represent you and at least be on your level as you grow together or on the level of which you are trying to achieve. This is not an ‘I think I’m better than you’ thing; You should always search for growth, knowledge and experiences to be the best you possible.
As you get older and work through life’s growing periods you should eventually get to a place when at a minimum, you know what you are not willing to accept in your relationship. You cannot say ‘I am confident and sure of who I am’ yet you are dating or married to someone without a job because they are not really putting in an effort to get one, abusing you in some capacity, not present as a parent or is not seeking their own personal growth and knowledge when it’s clear that they need to. Or worse yet, you with someone that already has a partner. Is that person seeking knowledge on how to put together the best resume in order to get a job? Are they learning about investments and retirement for the future or how to progress at work? Are they working on being a better friend, parent, lover, partner? Are they seeking spiritual growth or better communication skills? The list goes on depending on what your values are. If you are confident in yourself then your partner should reflect your values and morals.
Family members can be the biggest abusers of power based on their title. You would not go to visit grandma continuously knowing that she disrespects you in front of your children and spouse. If you are confident and sure of yourself then you are able to set boundaries and even cut the cord when needed.
It is very easy to walk around with a mask on trying to convince everyone including yourself that you are strong or confident but the hardest part is having it reflect through your life decisions and the relationships that you are connected with.
Actions always trump words and it takes someone strong, confident and sure of themselves to make those hard decisions in life.